Motivational Whisperers

You are absolutely ready to transform stress into success if you say or think the following: 

"I can't cope!"

"I'm tired of being angry!"

"I never have enough time for my family, forget about myself:)!"

"I don't have enough energy to go out or to exercise."

"I don't seem to get anything accomplished."  

"I spend too much time working."

"My relationship (marriage) is in trouble..."

These are statements that I hear everyday from my clients and at small business networking meet-ups.  When you attend my interactive virtual or in person trainings and Motivational Whisperer Master Mind (TBA!), and as an individual client, you will learn strategies and techniques to help you cope with daily stress, increase productivity, enhance relationships and boost your bottom line and empower you.  Miscommunications at home and among staff will lessen, complex demands juggling home and work will balance and frustration-anger thresholds will rise, as will productivity.

When you are in this group or work with me individually, you will:

• Learn to identify blocks keeping you stuck in negative patterns
• Learn to recognize triggers which cause blocks
• Learn how to be proactive in dealing with stressors
• Experience and practice techniques that increase productivity and reduce stress:  Visualizations for Success, Positive Languaging, Relaxation Breathing , EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques, meridian tapping  see demo videos, Goal Setting, Time Management and Prioritizing Strategies.
•     "SOAR! with Resilience"   

Contact me for a Complimentary Consult!:

516 623 4353  www.balanceandpower.com 

Hi Everyone!


 Do take a listen to

Victoria Vetere, PhD, HC - Enlightened Life Coach and Director of Lotus Health & Longevity

The latest Chique Show on "Attracting Chique Love Relationships!" along with  Barbara Conelli, PhD  recorded an hour show on Sunday, 2/13 for your listening pleasure! Enjoy!


Victoria's audio shows with Barbara Conelli: enlightenedlifecoaching.com/audio-links

The month of February connotes Valentine’s Day, which turns our thoughts to the topic of “love.” But what is love? Is it a feeling? A force? Is it God? Is it all there is? Trying to define “love” is like trying to define “infinity.” How do you wrap your head around either love or infinity? How do words come remotely close to capturing either?

If we use the concept so freely I suggest that we get honest and real with it. I find that we may know love best by knowing what it is not. By contrast, that is. We instinctively know when we are not feeling or behaving in a living way. And perhaps, even more so, we know when someone else if not being loving toward us. At its best, this process of noticing helps us to tune ourselves up.

In “love relationships” it gets even more murky. What so often passes for love is actually obsession or addiction. Do you really love that person, or do you need them? Love is unconditional. Anything else is an imposter. To love is to embrace without clutching, to give versus to barter, and to allow instead of to control.

This is how we get real with love. Sound like a tall order? While it is not easy, it is possible, in glimpses anyway. And the key is self-reverence. To value oneself is to value others. To like oneself is to accept others as they are. To trust oneself is to allow others to be as they are. A strong and steady loving relationship with oneself opens the gateway for loving relationships with others and with all of life.

So on Valentine’s Day and all other days, get real with love. Practice awareness of love, and cultivate the relationship with Self that is the fertile soil within which love can grow. You do not need to define love when you are able to live it. You will just know. From my heart to yours, Happy Valentine’s (every)Day!

Victoria A. Vetere, PhD, HC is an Enlightened Life Coach and Director of Lotus Health & Longevity. She offers individual coaching, business consulting, small groups and events featuring powerful energetic principles to enhance all aspects of life. Join “Enlightened Life Lovers” and check for upcoming events on her website at www.EnlightenedLifeCoaching.com. Also, find your way to better body, balance and bliss at www.DoYouLotus.com!!!

The only healthy communication style is assertive communication.- Jim Rohn

Do you have people in your life bossing you around, telling you what to do?
Have you had it up to your neck but you're afraid to speak up for your needs?

Many years ago I was afraid to say what was on my mind in my personal relationships because I felt I might lose my cool and blow my top. The reason is I habitually kept my anger bottled up for very long periods of time.  

Where did that come from?  I grew up learning to be compliant so I wouldn't be punished. No matter how I was rebelling inside I didn't let it show. I was in fact demonstrating unhealthy patterns of communication, being mostly passive and sometimes aggressive.

When we choose to communicate in unhealthy ways we are prone to harbouring resentment, frustration and anger. We may even be carrying a lot of rage inside that we turn on ourselves. We may find ourselves depressed, avoiding social situations and experiencing poor relationships.

Thankfully there's a very effective way to communicate which will allow you to be heard ...  

It's about expressing your feelings and thoughts in a way that is respectful.  It's called assertiveness and demonstrates high self-esteem and self-confidence. 

The first tip is to recognize your assertive rights such as the right to be treated with respect and the right to express your feelings.

Next, stop and think about what's happening and how you want to Respond instead of react.

Third, create an I statement which reflects what feelings you want to express and what action you want from the other person. Example "I feel upset when you shout at me. In future I would like you to speak to me in a calm voice."

Fourth, practice what you want to say in front of a mirror or with an imaginary person before confronting the real situation.
 
Five, breathe, relax, stay calm and make eye contact while expressing yourself.

Warm Regards,
Lorna Blake

 

LJ Empowerment Consulting

Empowerment Specialist & Radio Show Host

http://dld.bz/hZRx  

416 693-7347

Visit us on the web and sign up to receive our newsletter Empower Yourself News at

www.mpowerurself.com

Email me: lorna@lornablake.com

Follow me on Twitter: www.twitter.com/lornab09

Catch me on Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/lornamblake 

Empower Yourself! Transform Your Life! Have Fun!

 

Join me and two relationship experts on Thursday Oct. 28 as we take your calls and answer your questions! No matter what your relationship status is this show is for you!
http://www.blogtalkradio.com/lornablake/2010/10/29/empower-yourself-with-lorna-blake

Warm Regards,
Lorna Blake

 

LJ Empowerment Consulting

Empowerment Specialist & Radio Show Host

http://dld.bz/hZRx  

416 693-7347

 

Visit us on the web and sign up to receive our newsletter Empower Yourself News at

www.mpowerurself.com

Email me: lorna@lornablake.com

Follow me on Twitter: www.twitter.com/lornab09

Catch me on Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/lornamblake  

So many times in relationships we look to our partner to make us happy.  Our time is spent focusing on all the ways they make us feel good.  Then as the relationship evolves and the dynamics starts to change we recognize that many good qualities we loved, such as the affection, the communication, is no longer.  We then begin to question ourselves as to how these changes suddenly transpired and how we are no longer happy.  We then focus on the aspects of the relationship that are unpleasant, and the downward spiral begins...

Relationships are the most wonderful and inspiring ways to create with someone else.  They are also the most amazing way to learn about yourself.    As the relationship grows, and compromise begins you begin to recognize aspects of the relationship that are most important to you.  This includes both what you love and highlights what you do not.  You then hold the other person responsible for your feeling of emptiness, for they are no longer adoring you.  This is when our mistake begins...

Only you have the capability of loving yourself whole heartedly.  It is when you are connected to your whole self that you can create a relationship that is loving, most importantly, because you are loving yourself.  You are no longer giving your power away and defining who you are by what your partner thinks of you.  Your relationship is a reflection of what you think about yourself.  If you are not loving yourself, there is no way you can have, or find a partner that can make up for your lack of self love.  It is only when you appreciate you, and all the qualities you have, that you can be loving of yourself and attract that mate that will love you for you.  You are the only one responsible for your happiness.  Your partner is just a by-product (or reflection) of what your offering...

Appreciate your partner for all they provide, focus on those attributes you love, and enjoy and have fun with the time you spend together.  Some partnerships are short and serve for the basis of clarity, and some are longer as the goal is to evolve and grow together.  So whatever stage you may be in the game, whether you're in a happy relationship, or bored to tears in the one you're in.  Appreciate YOU first, appreciate all the good qualities in your partner, feel and cherish all the amazing feelings of your relationship and just have fun with it...

Life is about finding the love in yourself first and foremost.  Then, and only then, can you find the perfect partner, and most importantly BE the perfect partner.

Connie D. Henriquez is a fun & happy New York based Health & Lifestyle Coach and founder of the lifestyle brand that inspires health & happiness... Start Loving Life®.  For more information,  please visit: startlovinglife.com

 

"Individually, we are one drop. Together, we are an ocean." - Ryunosuke Satoro

Collaboration is one of the buzzwords in today's business circles but it's been known for ages that the easiest way to succeed is to hitch your wagon to that of someone who's already successful or to join a team of successful people. Even 'self-made' successful people upon reflection will admit that they received help in achieving success. They didn't do it all by themselves. The reality is no man or woman is an island. That's part of the reason groups have historically been known to be very effective at helping people create the changes they seek.

But many of us spin our wheels for years 'trying to make  it' but we don't get far as we quickly run out of steam going it alone and we have no supports in place to take the edge off our fall. Regardless of what you want to be successful in whether relationships, business, communication, whatever you need support.... Move yourself out of isolation and claim your place with a group of people who are doing what you want to do and/or are going where you want to go! You can do it! Find your group and get moving...

Warm Regards,
Lorna Blake

 

LJ Empowerment Consulting

Empowerment Specialist & Radio Show Host

http://dld.bz/hZRx  

416 693-7347

 

Visit us on the web and sign up to receive our newsletter Empower Yourself News at

www.mpowerurself.com

 

Email me: lorna@lornablake.com

Follow me on Twitter: www.twitter.com/lornab09

Catch me on Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/lornamblake 

Empower Yourself! Transform Your Life! Have Fun! 

"Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage."~Lao Tzu~

Warm Regards,
Lorna Blake

 

LJ Empowerment Consulting

Empowerment Specialist & Radio Show Host

http://dld.bz/hZRx  

416 693-7347

 

Visit us on the web and sign up to receive our newsletter Empower Yourself News at

www.mpowerurself.com

 

Email me: lorna@lornablake.com

Follow me on Twitter: www.twitter.com/lornab09

Catch me on Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/lornamblake 

Empower Yourself! Transform Your Life! Have Fun! 

That was a phenomenal show with relationship expert Maryanne Comaroto! She discussed how one of her students was flirting with a client for a year before she(the student) decided to ask him out on a date. It was at this point he then told her that he was married. According to Maryanne: "People will tell you anything to get you into bed..." So before you get to that point, before you even give out your contact information let's ask the critical questions. I'd love to hear your thoughts on this show.

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/lornablake/2010/07/30/empower-yourself-with-lorna-blake  

That's what we covered in our group coaching call tonight and the interaction was live!! Participants felt "the scenarios were powerful and very helpful!"

Here's the link to register
http://tinyurl.com/2axx88m