Motivational Whisperers

Give Yourself Permission to  Just BE...


I have had a lot of personal struggles with time management, being a woman trying to manage time between my career, my businesses and my household have been very challenging. I have missed several opportunities because I simply and honestly didn't have the energy to follow through on a lot of occassions.  I have just recently started to master listening to myself and my body, and in listening  to myself I found that the body is genious.


Our bodies will let us know when to sit down, when to get rest etc.


I was trying to cram my schedule together, make things fit because I felt that if I could get more things accomplished in my day  it would make me feel better. Wrong!




Craming and trying to frame things isn't who it is that I truly am, and it took a minute for me to understand and realize that.  So what I started to do was reach out for help from my support system to work this problem out, my take away after several conversations was to give myself permission to go with the flow. My flow, my way. 


So once I started to gather my thoughts and pull this whole thing together, my schedule, my me time and my goals it all started to fall into place.  You see I am not just an entrepreneur, I also have a full time job so one of the first things that I did with the help of my coach was rearrange my schedule based on my days off.


I don't have a regular schedule my days off fall on tuesday and wednesday, and as I tried to cram my business in those days it wasn't working. She suggested that I make one of those my day off, which is wednesday.


I was excited, I wanted to do something different for my first day off, I wanted to experience the freedom that I hadn't felt in a long time. So I went to the beach, it was 60 degrees that day and it was an hour long drive. I got there and I saw older couples walking on the boardwalk holding hands happy and full of joy.

I thought to myself this is what it feels like! I walked for eight miles and I took pictures and recorded the sound of the water hitting the rocks. I let the sun shine inside my heart. I set my intentions for the day and inhaled the air as if I were thirsty. I gave myself permission to let go, to breathe, and realign myself to flow effortlessly on my journey to help others do the same.

Give Yourself Permission to JUST BE  __________________. 

Alisa J. Green
Certified Life Coach|Connecting Catalyst| Self-Care Specialist
"From defending to defining to designing"


 

 
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Each and every person desires to create a connection with others. Be it a spiritual, romantic or friendly connection there is something to be said about sharing our lives with friends and family. The key to any successful relationship is to FIRST develop a loving relationship with yourself. When you love yourself and treat yourself well, others will take notice and treat you in kind.

How do you begin to form a loving relationship with yourself? By taking the time to look within and discover who you truly are. Each and every person has amazing gifts to share with the world. Discovering your talents and self worth will open up the doors to creating supportive and successful relationships. As you embark on this journey of self discovery you will in time understand your motivations, dreams, desires, what makes you happy and truly you. The important thing is to become aware of your value. Set aside time to do something nice for yourself daily and cultivate a loving relationship with YOU. As you begin to acknowledge your talents, realize that you are worthy of goodness and love and recognize the Divine light that shines within, you will begin to attract positive and loving people into your life.

Each day take a few moments to relax in a quiet location. Even 15 minutes will do as a beginning! Sit quietly and open your mind to creating a vision of your ideal life. What do you see taking place, who do you see sharing this life with you? As you form a mental picture you will then begin to shift to a place of self awareness and understanding. If sitting quietly doesn't appeal to you, take the time to journal each day. A journal is a wonderful way to open up to your inner thoughts and desires.

Each moment that you devote to discovering your authentic self is a deposit in the bank of your self-worth. There is no other person like you and the world will be a better place when you share your unique talents with others. Once you cultivate an authentic and loving relationship with yourself you will begin to attract positive and supportive relationships into your life.

Appreciate yourself, recognize your worth and share the wonder that is you with the world!

You always have a choice.  When you make the choices below you choose happiness:

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 It's easy to activate your  goals when you believe your goals.  Believe them and then watch as you activate and achieve them. 

If you want to make certain you will achieve your goals you must eliminate all adverse questioning, hoping, second guessing about the outcome. You must like the idea and know that you will succeed in order to succeed!   It just that simple. What the mind can conceive and believe will be achieved. - as long as you want that idea in your mind and you want to achieve it - you will do so.

 Now you may ask, how do I eliminate all those negative thoughts and emotions from my mind so I can embrace a new positive idea?

Many of you know that I'm a successful EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) and Peak Performance Success Coach.  Therefore, my answer to the above question is to use Emotional Freedom Technique, EFT, to eliminate all negative thoughts and self-limiting beliefs. EFT is one of the prime techniques that actually resolves them quickly, easily and permanently. It is based upon a meridian principle in which the basic premise is:

    "All negative thoughts, self-limiting beliefs and pain are caused by a blockage in one or more meridians."

 Once you realize that is true, then the opposite is just as true. That means once you eliminate all blockages in your meridians, you no longer suffer from negative thoughts, self-limiting beliefs or pain.  The next thing to learn is its easy to clear the blockages within your meridians. You simply tap on the meridian access points as you focus on your negative thoughts or self-limiting beliefs., which clears the blockage. Once the blockage is gone, life force energy can flow through the meridians again and you find yourself feeling positive and happy again.

 The way you use the technique with goal setting and achievement is to first realize that one of the reasons you don't achieve your goals is because something holds you back. That is called a "self-limiting belief" which is that little voice inside that questions whether you can achieve anything and beats you up every time things don't go well. It doesn't have to be that way, but, for now, it  may be.  EFT can and will eliminate that little voice!   Learn more about EFT here and sign up for a complimentary consult!


 

The aim of life is to live and to live means to be aware - joyously,
      drunkenly, serenely, divinely aware.
                                                                                    - Henry Miller

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Empowerment Specialist & Speaker
 

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Do you have relationship issues that you want to work out? Would you like to get along better with the people in your life? In the personal growth and self-help fields, there's a lot of talk about core values. Most of the teachers and coaches will tell you to identify your personal values in order to find direction and purpose for your life.

 This is true, but there are other reasons for discovering your personal values that are essential for creating a happy life and successful relationships. In this article, you'll discover why we don't just automatically know what our core values are, and how to use your newly discovered personal core values as building blocks to create the life and the relationships that you've always wanted.

You may have heard of a book, written by Robert Fulghum, called, "All I Really Need to Know I Learned in Kindergarten." While the book is both cleverly written and humorous, there are some serious truths beneath the cute exterior. Some of the things he talks about learning in kindergarten include:

•    Share
•    Play fair
•    Put things back where you found them
•    Clean up your own mess
•    Say you're sorry if you hurt someone.

You might think the lessons above are rather obvious, but at their heart, these are profoundly important understandings. Of course we all learned them at a surface level in kindergarten, but no one told us why acting in these ways is so important—we were never made to understand the values that are embedded within these behaviors.

What would be possible if, in kindergarten, instead of being told, "Nice little girls and boys share things with each other." we were taught these behaviors by being asked questions such as, "Is sharing important to you?" "How does it feel when you share something with other people and they seem so happy?" or "Do you like it when people share things with you?"

Imagine what could happen if we were asked to look inside and recognize how these behaviors enrich our lives? How different would the world be if children were taught what was important about acting in these ways, and how their choices could positively affect their lives as well as everyone around them?

Unfortunately, in our society there is very little attempt to align cultural values embedded within these behaviors with our personal values. We are raised in a culture where these behaviors are taught to us using a system of punishment and reward. You either do it or you will be punished!

From a very young age we are trained to focus our attention on figuring out who is good, who is bad, who is right, who is wrong, and what is appropriate, or inappropriate behavior. "If you don't say you're sorry, you are bad and wrong." "Share everything, play fair, put things back where you found them, clean up your own mess," and on and on it goes.

We are taught that doing these things makes us good little boys and girls. And if you don't do as you're told or do something else instead, you're punished and told that you're bad and wrong.

The concepts we learn in kindergarten, and the methods used to teach them, cause us to interact with one another in very predictable ways. Even as adults, when someone doesn't share, play fair, or put things away, there are consequences. They might be judged as inappropriate or inconsiderate.  They could be criticized for not being a good friend, neighbor, brother or daughter. In extreme cases, they may even end up alienated from their community or family.

But there's good news... at any point you can decide to make sure your actions are a reflection of your personal values rather than an attempt to avoid consequences. To do this:

1.    Look inside and discover your personal values.
2.    Investigate whether your actions are in harmony your personal values.
3.    Recognize how your actions can enrich your life and the life of others.
4.    Turn your attention away from right and wrong thinking.
5.    Think about the values that may be motivating other people's actions.

How Do You Take These Actions?

To begin living in harmony with your personal values, you must first know what they are. You can discover your personal values in many ways. One way is by asking yourself questions such as: "What is most important to me?" "What is the one thing I would miss in my life above all else?" Once you have your answers, distill them down to the quality that defines them. Another, more structured, way is to participate in a standardized values exercise. You can get one as our gift by visiting our web site. (Find it in the free stuff section.)

Once you have identified your personal values, the next step is to investigate whether the actions you've been taking are in harmony with those values. Is sharing in harmony with values you hold dear? Is playing fair important to you? Why is cleaning up your own mess something you personally value? Start answering these questions for yourself. Make sure that all your habitual actions are in harmony with your personal values. If they are, you will discover a renewed excitement about taking these actions. And if you should discover that some of the actions you were taking are not in harmony with your newfound personal values, it's time to re-examine whether you want to continue taking that action.

Once you have examined your current behaviors, you can look forward to the future. Each time a new choice becomes available, it will be easy to determine how this action will enrich your life and the life of the other people involved. Will it support more closeness and connection? Will it create more trust and intimacy? When you move in the direction of making your life more wonderful, we promise that your happiness will extend to the lives of the people around you.

As we said before, from a very young age we are taught to focus on right-wrong thinking. This thinking creates unpleasant "us" against "them" interactions with the people in your life. Are we playing together so that everyone is having fun? Not with that kind of focus. To start interacting with others so that everyone can be satisfied with the outcome begins by shifting the focus of our attention from who's right and who's wrong, to getting to the values that motivate our actions.

So, the next time somebody does something you don't enjoy, don't automatically defend yourself and justify your position. STOP, don't take it personally, and remember that their actions are being motivated by something that they value. Try instead to be curious: "Wow, I wonder what's going on with them?" Imagine yourself in the other person's shoes: "If I said or did that, what might be going on with me?" See if you can guess. This practice will create constructive interactions with the people in your life that end up being more fun and that leave you much more satisfied.

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The Universal Law of Attraction can be a very effective tool in making you achieve your goals and practically everything else you want to have in this lifetime. You will realize that desire should always start from within, and the world will just obey your thoughts, actions and ideas. Here are some guidelines on how to get your objectives just the way you want.

Ask the Universe

According to the Universal Law of Attraction, ask the universe and it shall give to you. However, to achieve your goals, you have to truly have an idea about what kind of thing or event you want to happen in your life. There are plenty of items that you can ask from the world. The most common are superficial things such as money, a new car, a new house, etc. More meaningful items include better relationships with your family or spouse, happiness in your job and life, etc. All of these can be given to you at the time you want and in the extent you need.

Your Actions

Once you have set your goals and asked from the universe, your mind, thoughts and body will start acting automatically to lead towards the goals and objectives. You will subconsciously accomplish small tasks and open up a wide array of opportunities that are meant to direct you to the ultimate mark. Renew your goals each morning as you wake up and your body will just function immediately towards these.

Work both consciously and subconsciously. Remember that it also requires effort and discipline on your part to receive the best things in life. Be grateful for the things you are already blessed with to show that you are mentally prepared for bigger blessings.

Staying Positive

The Universal Law of Attraction helps you achieve your goals, as long as you remain positive. Always believe that the universe is capable of providing immediately. Anything can actually happen, in the time you have set. Always be optimistic in the face of adversary. It is not impossible that you will encounter a few problems along the way, but what's more important is how you relate to the situation in a positive light. Be conscious about what's happening and be prepared to accept the wonderful gifts you have in store.

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