Motivational Whisperers

Many   competent people "self-sabotage" themselves every day by overreacting emotionally and hurting their relationships — both at work and at home.  They stay stuck in habits that hurt them, such as procrastination,  disorganization, avoiding conflict ... the list goes on and on.

 On the other end of the spectrum,  professionals can respond to adversity with a level head — even if they're ready to "blow a fuse".  

 Often what they do differently is adapt to workplace changes — even those that are tough to swallow and stick with difficult challenges when solutions don't come easily.  They follow through on plans  in order to turn "good intentions" into reality ... and meet more goals.  They are able to develop the steady self-control it takes to stand up for yourself and deal with conflicts positively and break on-the-job habits that hurt you, like procrastination, disorganization, and others.

You can bring more discipline into your personal and professional life by creating healthier routines and relationships.  Maybe you are stuck - and either don't have "a clue" or have many "clues" and don't know what to do.  Here are a few ways to create a better emotional relationship with yourself-  which will surely transfer to others- just give these a try:)!:

 

• Write down three things - people - situations you are grateful for each day
• Write personal affirmations and place them on your dashboard , on computer and in the bathroom
• Practice effective communication- be assertive v. reactive
• Leave the scene, when possible if you find your stress/frustration/anger quotient rising and take a "time-out" to do any of the above! and/or punch the ceiling,
  go into the car and scream, do EFT (emotional freedom techniques, tapping)
• Practice relaxation and/or meditation on a regular basis 
   
  
   
• Exercise often
• Enjoy nature
• Have fun! and Smile :) 
• Eat and sleep well

 

All the best with this- it takes determination, perseverance and internal motivation to succeed at anything.  Trust that these techniques help and practice them~ and then write your own success story!  I'm listening...
when you contact me for a complimentary consult 

BalanceandPower
 

 I challenge you to look at your Relationship Fitness Quotient!

  I've been finding more and more that folk's everything (physical-emotional-relationship) fitness quotient  correlates with their stress-frustration-anger quotient. -  So...with that said  if you think that you have a high stress fitness quotient  then...

 

 Here are some quick and easy suggestions to reduce stress right now:

• Pay attention to your body, feelings, thoughts and intuitive self!
• Acknowledge personal stress cues and symptoms!
• Recognize your tolerance!
• Pause! Breathe! Detach! Relax! Take a mini-vacation! (Listen to Track #7, below)
• Change your internal environment!
• Connect with Nature
• Physically release and focus: dance, walk, yoga, work-out, etc. (Listen to Track #2, below)
• Conduct internal "traffic control" several times a day.
• Meditate and center yourself.
• Embrace your personal power and spiritual connection.

Listen to Moving Meditation®

	Track #2: Rythmic Movement
	Track #7: Guided Relaxation

 and  your resilience fitness quotient:

 http://www.motivationalwhisperers.com/magazine/read/what-is-your-resilience-aptitude_733.html

Quick tips for upping your relationship fitness quotient:

·        Be a great listener and do not interrupt or curse

·        When you find that your fuse is lit excuse yourself and release frustration-anger  link

·        Stay in the present moment

• *** Acknowledge that the other's perception is just that: their perception.  So...perhaps it is indicated not to take your perception of  the other's talk/action as a personal afront.

 

Do you need help? 
I am available for a FREE Telephone Coaching Consult: 516 623 4353    balanceandpower 
 

 and find these issues addressed in my book  and programs  
SOAR! with Resilience™ 


 

 

 

A big take away affirmation  for me while spending a working vacation in Scottsdale presenting  my SOAR! with Resilience™  program at a Leadershop Conference for Special Educators:  Motivation is a mind and heart two way street:  When we share our passion, knowledge and inspiration and the receiver(s) really hears and feels it, we get that back many times over.   My motivational programs are interactive; above we are giving a "silent scream" shout out- visualization or blank ceiling- as we release frustration or anger.

                                                               

 

I customize programs for your group and also am a Peak Performance Success Coach for your life and career, a certified anger management specialist and EFT practitioner.  BalanceandPower


 

 

A big take away affirmation  for me while spending a working vacation in Scottsdale presenting  my SOAR! with Resilience™  program at a Leadershop Conference for Special Educators:  Motivation is a mind and heart two way street:  When we share our passion, knowledge and inspiration and the receiver(s) really hears and feels it, we get that back many times over.   My motivational programs are interactive; above we are giving a "silent scream" shout out- visualization or blank ceiling- as we release frustration or anger.

                                                               

 

I customize programs for your group and also am a Peak Performance Success Coach for your life and career, a certified anger management specialist and EFT practitioner.  BalanceandPower

As a normal part of life, stress enables us to get things done. If left unmanaged, stress can lead to emotional, psychological, and even physical problems. Stress causes a disruption in the flow of vital energy through the body. These energetic imbalances can throw off the immune system or cause symptoms of pain, sleep disturbances, abnormal digestion, headaches, menstrual irregularities, aggravation of already troublesome health conditions and, over time, more serious illnesses can develop. 

Stress is cumulative.  Stressful situations that last over a long period of time can create an ongoing low-level stress that puts continual pressure on the nervous system, increasing activity, and can cause the overproduction of hormones. The extra stress hormones over an extended period of time may wear out the body's reserves, lead to fatigue, depression, a weakened immune system, and a host of serious physical and psychological ailments. 

Some signs of stress overload include:

- anxiety or panic attacks
- feelings of constant pressure, hassled and hurried
- irritability and moodiness
- physical symptoms such as stomach problems, headaches, or even chest pain
- allergic reactions, such as eczema or asthma
- problems sleeping
- overindulgence in food, alcohol, smoking, or drugs
- sadness or depression



Stress is often the cause of illness and the deterioration of health. Finding a release valve for your stress can help you stay healthy. According to research, stress, frustration, and unresolved anger can play an important part in throwing the immune system off and allowing pathogens to affect the body. 

Research has shown that EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques), meditation and relaxation techniques can reduce stress levels. My private sessions and workshops/trainings integrate these modalities with Peak Performance Success Coaching for your life and career: www.balanceandpower.com

While it isn't always possible to remove the external forces causing stress, the ability to effectively deal with stress is a choice. Take time for yourself to cultivate the energy you need to handle your stress more skillfully and effectively. 

If you or someone you know is experiencing stress or a stress related disorder, contact me for more information about how the modalities mentioned in the previous paragraph can help you regain peace of mind and stay healthy.  Schedule an appointment today!  516 623 4353   balanceandpower 



 

 Is there really a simple formula for happiness? Gratitude is an often overlooked yet powerful approach to increasing positive emotions.  Over the past 2 decades scientists have discovered many nuances for using gratitude as a tool for affecting your physical and emotional health.  When you  learn to shift from a negative or neutral emotional state into a positive one and learn to FEEL grateful rather than just think about gratitude, you are on your way to happiness.

Let's say you've mastered gratitude- or think that you have- yet you are  restless, impatient, frustrated...

What gives? What do you need to do to master happiness? What do you need to feel inner peace? Being grateful is important- and to complete the simple formula for happiness there are the additional modern challenges of

• releasing stress

• being in the moment-mindful 

•   understanding  your anger triggers 
  

•  communicating effectively and  appropriately

• acknowledging when you need help and asking for it 

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Find out about my services and master this equation!

 

"Practicing mindfulness of gratitude consistently leads to a direct experience of being connected to life and the realization that there is a larger context in which your personal story is unfolding. Being relieved of the endless wants and worries of your life's drama, even temporarily, is liberating. Cultivating thankfulness for being part of life blossoms into a feeling of being blessed, not in the sense of winning the lottery, but in a more refined appreciation for the interdependent nature of life. It also elicits feelings of generosity, which create further joy. Gratitude can soften a heart that has become too guarded, and it builds the capacity for forgiveness, which creates the clarity of mind that is ideal for spiritual development."     - Philipp Moffitt, Selfless Gratitude

"Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life.   It turns what we have
into enough, and more.  It turns denial into acceptance, chaos
to order, confusion to clarity.  It can turn a meal into a feast, 
a house into a home, a stranger into a friend.  Gratitude makes
sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a 
vision for tomorrow."  -Melody Beattie

In these challenging times the principles for manifesting abundance need to be honed, shared and practiced more than ever.   The Law of Attraction and related teachings, including those found in EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) 

 State the importance in being specific in what you ask for.  For instance, the naming of the area in life or career that you are interesting in manifesting abundance in, with specific intentions as to what you are seeking will facilitate the process. 

Your  intention for manifesting abundance must be high energy with positive words and images and may include specific numerical figures.  The importance of using high energy positive language is because your subconscious  picks up on the negative word, no matter what context you use. 

We manifest abundance by letting it in and releasing resistance which may show itself in the form of fear, anger and shutting down.   The process is similar to prater, with more personal involvement.  We must be aware and alert to change and notice when circumstances/conditions are right for manifesting abundance- and then take action!

 Here are a few "mantras" that can be used with visualization:

• let abundance into the area of...
• allow $$ __ to flow freely into my life..
• allow love into my life and allow me to send it out
• allow me to stay focused in my ___ work..

 

EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) is a technique-tool for manifesting abundance.  An example of an effective set-up phrase with the EFT "choice method":

 

"Even though I am struggling with financial issues, I choose to manifest abundance in the form of  attracting several(  2-5) thousand dollars per week into my career."

 

After tapping the points for three sets you will notice your perception of the concept of manifesting this specific abundance skyrocket!!

 

Since I've been been meditating and tapping with the art of manifesting abundance, I've seen amazing results as have my clients.  It is equally important to surround yourself with supportive, high energy, positive people!

 

If you believe all this is true and find yourself procrastinating in taking steps to manifest abundance, then it is a sign that one or more of these fears are influencing you:

• fear of judgement
• fear of failure
• fear of success
• fear of being controlled.

 

 View to overcome procrastination and  start manifesting abundance now!!

 

 

I've asked around; everyone knows the definition of hassled and mellow. However, not many are able to transition from hassled to mellow in a short time and without doing damage- emotionally and/or physically.  An example of a smaller issue someone can stress over is finding kitchen cabinets open all the time.

 

You may say- that's nothing- just close them..OK, but when that small stressor accumulates emotionally, stuff can happen- both in your body and confrontationally with the "culprit".

 

Here's a bigger example that we all can relate to- stuck in traffic-late to begin with-and worst case- cell is not in the car with you (perhaps on kitchen table or in another bag?).  And how about not saving something on the computer and its suddenly disappears after spending almost an hour writing.

 

Sometimes the impatience-frustration-anger is directed inward and sometimes at others.  No matter to our adrenalin, cortisol and muscle tension levels, which are now way up and needing to be released.  Easier said than done..

Here are 5 easy way to transition from hassled to mellow- just give yourself and others a chance!:

• Relaxation Breathing at least 3 times with exra release: Breathe deeply in through your nose and out mouth, strong and longer exhale than inhale.
• Leave when possible and try stronger physical releases: **silent scream, progressive muscle relaxation**, walk, exercise.
• Do something fun- or at least differently with a smile/forced positive outlook.
• Listen to music of the genre you want to feel like.
• Communicate when others as necessary from the "I" place without blame or judgement.
• Learn EFT and use it on the spot when possible and frequently there after until the issue no longer upsets you.

 

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You may find additional strategies to manage stress and anger in my book 

SOAR! with Resilience™   

Finding the balance of spontaneity with intuition helps us make choices that benefit our lives. Notice when you are feeling impulsive or spontaneous and then ask yourself, “Will this really benefit me?”  The answer comes in the form of a verbal response or simply an instinctual feeling. Try to pay attention to your feeling; that is your intuition guiding you to make the right choices. It is important to remember that making spontaneous decisions doesn’t necessarily mean being hasty. Acting with energy and spontaneity is a wonderful way to live our lives, as it means we are being in the moment. However, it can lead us to make decisions that may not be the best for us  and maylead to stress, frustration, anger, anxiety, depression.
 

A high level of energy may leave you feeling stimulated and not completely aware of the effects of the choices you make.  This may be a good time to work on balancing your spontaneity with intuition.

Taking a moment or two to think about the effects of our choices, we are still acting on the spur-of-the-moment, but we also act using our intuition as a guide. This prevents us from making decisions we may later regret. We respect and pay attention to both our desire for the unstructured and our natural instincts.   Be attuned to your intuition! Balancing spontaneity with intuition is  important for manifestation

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