Have you ever wanted to confront your fears?
What would you tell them and why? Our fears come in all shapes
and sizes, but no matter what, we MUST NOT let them get in the
way of anything that we want to accomplish in life. If you could
write a letter to your fear, what would it sound like?
Would it be full of anger and hate? Or would it be a letter that tells your fear how it has helped shape you and allowed you to move on with your life? Any fear is scary, and any fear CAN and WILL be OVERCOME, you just have to give it time.
I’ve found that by telling my clients to address their fears in a letter has been a very therapeutic and helpful way in addressing their fear and letting it know that they have carried it around for long enough and they are READY to LET IT GO. Here is an example that I have written to my fear. How would you address yours?
I know you are here, and I acknowledge that. Even though you may show up from time to time, I WILL NOT let you take control of my life! Regardless of how often you try and defeat me, NOTHING will get in my way of following through on what my life has in store for me. Thank you for keeping me on my toes and making me a much stronger person.
Here are some ways to help conquer your fears:
- Write your fear a letter: Letter it know how you feel. How it has hurt your progress and how it has also made you stronger to move on and follow your dream.
- Journal your fears: Write down what makes you afraid. When we write down what is holding you back, it will allow you to reflect and loosen fears grip by observing it. The more you acknowledge that your fear is there, the less of a threat it will become
- Take small steps: All it takes is one step, not a giant leap. Taking small steps towards your fear is better than taking none at all. Remember every small step taken is equals one big step towards conquering your fear.
- Believe in yourself: Don’t cloud your mind up with negative thoughts. Know that YOU CAN do anything that you wish to do. Set up your mind for success and take it from there.
Keep on Keeping on Everyone,
Daniel is the owner of Motivational Wellness, a service based company focused on helping women loses weight and feel more confident in their own skin. He also provides services that help anyone that is ready to take control of their lifestyle and push through the boundaries of their mind and body to make the changes necessary to live a happier, healthier existence. Contact him here @ www.Motivationalwellness.com
There's one fabulous reason why you
were called to be in business for yourself: You are
meant to be great. You are meant to soar and uplift others along
You are meant to stare your fears right in the eyes and then go ahead, do what you're called to do, and Be Boldly Brilliant. Whenever you come up with a new idea, whenever you're about to step out of your comfort zone into the unknown, the voice of your Ego Mind, your Inner Gremlin, will try to take you out, giving you hundreds of reasons why you can't.
But your soul will always be there, waiting, giving you gentle nudges, until you get it: Once you take the first, tiny step toward what you're called to do, you will always be supported by the Divine Love.
Boldly Brilliant Action
Step: What is the idea or desire that keeps coming
back into your life? What is the inspired action that you've been
attracted to but haven't dared to take?
Today, get out of your way. Make a list of why you actually CAN - and then go ahead and take the first tiny step. There's always a way, and once you show up with courage and determination, you will be divinely guided and supported.
Halloween is a funny holiday: jack-o'-lanterns, scary movies, candy, pumpkin soup (my family tradition) and also masks and costumes. Dressing up as Morticia Addams, your grandmother's ghost or the skeleton in the closet is hilarious - it takes you back to childhood, and it allows you to relax and assume a totally crazy identity for a couple of hours.
But what about the mask and costume you put on when you face the exciting, yet challenging task of growing your business, serving your clients, making money and expanding your possibilities? What is it like and where does it come from?
We, creative, soul-centered women in business, often struggle with the worst ghost of all: the fear of not being enough, not knowing enough. The fear of being exposed as a fraud.
And so we look around, at those who "have made it", and we try to imitate them. We listen to gurus who tell us that unless we do things exactly this or that way, we won't succeed. We follow someone else's blueprints, and we wear hats and coats that don't really fit: masks and costumes that hide our own brilliant genius.
Today, I have three Boldly Brilliant Halloween tips for you that will help you shed your mask and let your true light shine. Click here to read these exciting tips on my blog, and don't forget to leave a comment!
Barb Conelli PhD, the founder of Feminine Money Power, is a women's heart-centered money coach & business mentor for the soul-filled entrepreneuress ready to put on her big girl pants and claim her greatness in order to create and KEEP amazing money. She encourages women to Be Boldly Brilliant: To break free of unconscious self-sabotaging money patterns, gain control of their relationship with money and build their dream business with passion, confidence and zest, using their unique, authentic feminine voice. Download your FREE Video Training & Workbook: 5 Boldly Brilliant Money Breakthroughs You Can Create TODAY To Make And Keep More Money With Feminine Grace, Ease And Authenticity.
I became fearless going on the “scary” rides in Coney Island, Brooklyn as a child even though I never would go on the parachute- there were known accidents on that one and I was very safety conscious- Mom was a worrier.
Going in the front car of the roller coaster, approaching the top (with friends of course ) and looking at the big drop ahead gave no time to do anything except scream & hold on tight! So it went through the fun summer months. Thinking back over the years, I did many courageous things and not much scared me. Here are a few that got me thinking back to the scary rides...:
Walking on hot coals while on a
mind body spirit retreat in Santa Fe ( first time away
from my young children too). We had lots of prep time and
when it was my turn I was ready. Awesome.
Skiing.This wasn’t worth it for me; injured and it could’ve been worse… Later on I took up cross country- fun!
Para sailing Puerto Vallarta: This was the ultimate overcome of fear of heights for me. I was sitting on the beach for several days meditating (and drinking pina coladas) and surprised myself with the conscious decision into action. Very challenging and I did look down a few times when I wasn’t looking at the mountain.
Riding a bicycle in Amsterdam last week. Steve and I were visiting our daughter who lives there with her Spanish boyfriend. The city is really set up for cycling but I convinced myself it would be tough, it's difficult enough being a pedestrian there- ‘cause of all the bicycles!
My daughter went off riding with my husband and after a while came back to get me- they knew I would love it and it was only a few blocks to Vondel Park. Steve and I visited that city 40 years ago and rode our bikes around that we bought in Italy.
Back on the trip forty years ago- we rode our bikes out of Florence (where we bought the racers- and mine was a boy’s with the bar- the only kind made at the time) and I scared myself with a coughing attack that precipitated me throwing the pack(s) of Marlboros out- which was scary ‘cause I couldn’t imagine not smoking “cold turkey” which I succeeded at. And it was difficult- maybe not scary- to totally change our travel plans so that we went back to the city and got the bikes on trains that rode out of the seven hills, through the Alps and landed us in Germany to enjoy the rolling hills (so we could use all the gears ) and along the Rhine onto Holland. Of course we stopped to eat and sleep in foreign lands- sometimes in hostels and sometimes in the forest, scary and amazing.
I’m happy to be telling you all now. When friends and strangers comment on (both) our daughters living in Europe – I smile and am happy we brought them up with roots and wings - and the ability to navigate the scary and unknown.
• The scariest thing of all for me was
9/11 and the period following that. Were we really
OK? Then it became more than me and being empty
nested- yes our daughters already just in Europe- and it
was much more than getting off the coach and
back onto the treadmill and back into the gym-
even that was scary after a dark
- Now getting through the airports is kinda scary. Getting off the Long Island RR into Penn station is fine if I look straight ahead and focus. That’s it, and what I recommend:
I'd love to hear your scary-resilience stories!
As a professional success coach and facilitator I help clients overcome fear and be resilient. Contact me for a complimentary strategy consult: 516 623 4353 www.balanceandpower.com
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Have you ever pushed through all of your fears, walked right up to the edge, and leaped toward your dreams?
I bet you have. We all have.
How did you feel?
Excited? Elated? Proud? Light?
But what if while you were expecting to feel all of those emotions during the freefall between your old life and your dream life, you instead felt sick to your stomach and even more fearful than you already were?
What if during that freefall you started to question it all? What if you started to wonder why you had jumped in the first place? What if you worried that your dream wouldn’t be there to catch you?
What if that scared part of you began to ask yourself some tough questions: What were you thinking? Who were you to leap at all, anyway? Why couldn’t you just be happy and content with the way your life currently was? Why can’t you just enjoy this moment of pure faith – this moment of bravely leaping into the unknown?
What do you do if your freefall is filled with doubt and fear instead of joy and confidence?
You embrace it.
Seriously. While it may seem that this is the opposite of what you would want to do, it’s what you must do. If you resist it or judge it or run from it, it will only grow. When you embrace yourself for feeling this way and acknowledge the fearful feelings and the uncertainty, you allow yourself to move through it. And only when you move through it will it subside.
When you remind yourself that it’s perfectly normal and natural to feel this way, you give yourself permission to be in that space without judgment. When you remember how strong you were to leap in the first place – knowing that it took a special kind of bravery to be able to do that – you begin to turn these fearful feelings into empowered feelings. When you reconnect with that part of you who leaped because you couldn’t imagine doing anything else, you reconnect with your soul. When you pat yourself on the back for being strong enough to follow your heart, you begin to overpower any negative emotion. When you remind yourself how amazing you are for having the guts to do something like this, you allow the love to flow where before there was only fear.
And after all of this, you remember that the freefall is about surrender. The freefall is about faith. The freefall is about having complete trust that you are right where you are supposed to be.
When you land, you can reassess. When you land, you can make sure you’re really where you need to be. When you land, you can look around and see how this new world feels. When you land you can make sure it’s right. There is a time for all of this. But it’s not right now. Not during the freefall.
Embrace the freefall.
The freefall is evidence that you’re living fully. This is your moment to just sit back and relax. You did it. You leaped into pure faith – you believed that the universe and your dreams would support you and catch you. And they will.
Tell your mind that it’s all okay. Your heart knows this already. And your soul is leading the way.
There is no better feeling than landing right smack in the middle of a dream. And the only way to get there is to leap and freefall into it.
Embrace this moment.
This is your moment.
This is your freefall.
I am experiencing my own freefall right now as I’m getting ready to launch my first ecourse called Coming Back to Life (based on my upcoming book)!
I am excited and scared and joyful and worried and elated and uncertain all at the same time. But what I know in my heart is that I am so excited to offer this to you – so whatever fear is surrounding it needs to take a back seat so that I can bring it into the world.
I am so grateful that each of you are here to support me. I love that we are supporting each other. And that’s what this course is all about – coming back to life and reaching our dreams together. Let’s freefall together, too! (More details about the course soon – it starts on 9/17!)
Jodi Chapman is the author of the inspirational blog, Soul Speak; the upcoming book, Coming Back to Life: How an Unlikely Friend Helped Me Reclaim My True Spirit; and the bestselling Soulful Journals series, co-authored with her amazing husband, Dan Teck. She would love to connect on Facebook and Twitter. Click here to receive her free ebook: Journaling from the Soul – 100 Prompts for Self Exploration.
Worrying takes an enormous amount of time and energy and stats show that a tiny percentage of what we considier worrisome never happens.
2. Let go of perfectionism, take action and manifest!
Give yourself permission to take action and begin a project beforte all the "kinks" are straightened out, as long as you are following a "strategic" plan.
3. Examine anything you are procrastinating about to see if it's worthwhile to pursue.
If it is and you need to get past a few blocks, learn EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) a sure procrastination eradicator!
4. Listen to your intuition.
Always! Pay attention to your physical and emotional cues!
5. Be a great listener!
Listening well has a few great benefits: Listen well and your response will be more on target.
6. You always have a choice!
Give yourself a few minutes in the morning to visualize success.
Before "popping" out of bed, visualize your day happening including what you are wearing and how conversations unfold. If it is not a happy-productive scenario, when possible eliminate it.
7. Take frequent breaks
Throughout the day, leave the scene of work. Go outside if possible, stretch and walk.
8. Be grateful!
It's been going around that this is the only way to be if you want to have peace of mind. To further gratefulness along, write three things/people you are grateful for each day, adding to the list you have created. When you walk, you can use these as a "mantra". Post them on post-its on your mirror and on the car dashboard. Witness the magic happen :).
9. Take time each day to relax and dream.
Practice yoga and/or meditation or simply do some relaxation breathing in a peaceful spot.
10. Surround yourself with positive people.
Motivational Whisperers TV presents this episode of SOAR! with Resilience™ .
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1. Take baby steps toward your fear. You don't need to go on a parachute or to the edge of The grand Canyon the first day--just go on top of a small hill (or a glass elevator) and look down. You don't need to write the entire book this weekend--just take some time to make an outline.
2. Learn tools or processes that can help you dissolve your fear. There are many "shortcuts" out there-techniques that are effective at dissipating the fear on a deep level. One of my favorites is EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique), also known as Tapping-see how to do that here:
Here's a global fears top ten:
1. Fear of public speaking (Glossophobia)
2. Fear of death (Necrophobia)
3. Fear of spiders (Arachnophobia)
4. Fear of darkness (Achluophobia)
5. Fear of heights (Acrophobia)
6. Fear of people or social situations (Sociophobia)
7. Fear of flying (Aerophobia)
8. Fear of open spaces (Agoraphobia)
9. Fear of thunder and lightning (Brontophobia)
10. Fear of confined spaces (Claustrophobia
Typically, EFT is facilitated with a practitioner for several sessions, while the individual is tapping on their own every day. EFT is especially effective when integrated with peak performance success coaching.
Clients are successfully guided to release fear and completely reverse phobias after only few sessions!
CONTACT Eileen for a complimentary strategy session!
3. Make a commitment to yourself to keep moving toward that fear until you're on the other side. Find a buddy and/or a coach to help support you. Tell your buddy what your commitment is and ask him or her to stick by you through your process.
Eileen Lichtenstein and Bill McCartney on EFT and the Services of Balance and Power, Part 1:
|Watch Eileen with a client who has been challenged with public speaking in front of his peers and successfully used EFT with Eileen to overcome anxiety...|
Eileen, I just wanted to let you
The social media event that I did today was a huge success!!! We had over 100 people in attendance and not only was I extremely comfortable, I was able to deliver a clear and concise message that was educational and inspired people. Thank you again for your help... I really do appreciate it.
- Bill McCartney, Fear of Speaking EFT Video
Or call: 516.623.4345 .
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EFT is always blowing my mind. 'Cause it
I was skeptical before I learned it- and am amazed at how powerfully effective it is with each personal or client application to release negative energy and create new positive emotions that result in action around issues that have been "stuck". I can do "surrogate tapping" with you on the phone - or without you at all- like "long distance Reiki", etc. Just ask :) EFT is like yoga for the emotions! It involves you gently tapping on stress relief points of the body while I implement powerful language. It provides relief from physical and emotional pain, and any trauma or beliefs that have been blocking your truth. Do you feel the weight of all the 'shoulds' on your shoulders? Do you sometimes wish, 'If only I could be who I really am?' If you would like to access your own guidance and wisdom instead of seeking truth about yourself from other people or sources, you can learn to use Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) to help dissolve whatever is in the way.
When you are ready for
action and a
circumstance occurs so that you experience confusion or fear what
do you do? Freeze..nothing probably, that's human nature.
Even though it may be the polarity of what you want to do when
you are ready for action, this is prime time to take stock and do
inner work in order to move past blocks and make fabulous, free
Writer's block, for instance, is often a matter of too much distraction. Perhaps it's about needing fresh ideas, or being "sure of yourself", confident that what you write will resonate with your readers. Procrastination is always fear based. Before you can move forward, it's important to know which kind(s) of fear you're facing- that's the intitial inner work- is it fear of failure, being judged, fear of success (yes, success can take you to new scary places..) or of being controlled.
Once you've gotten the "fear factor" figured out, sometimes with assistance of a coach, then it's time to have a few guided EFT sessions. My facilitation of The EFT Technique has been 100% effective in my four years as an EFT-ADV practitioner combining the EFT Technique with Peak Performance Success Coaching. This includes conquering fear of public speaking, which is the number one fear in our society. phobias and procrastination. Immediately following an EFT session using Gary Craig's short EFT Technique form, I facilitate a deep guided relaxation-visualization session to reinforce the tapping, intuitive coach-like language and positive emotional transitions that have occurred.
Now that I've spiked your curiousity you can find out more about EFT and see me in action videos and click onto the great video affiliate link there www.balanceandpower.com/eft.php
EFT HAS ACHIEVED AN "EVIDENCE BASED" STATUS, BUT IS YET TO BE APPROVED BY THE APA
What I learned from colleagues is that while the APA does recognize that EFT is evidence based (after their review of 50 research studies)they are still looking at it before rendering any definitive decision on whether they will actually accept it. In the meanwhile, they do not give credit to any psychologists who seek continuing education credits for taking courses in it. I actually believe this is a good thing for now, since they might otherwise try to regulate it and retain it just for psychologists, when it was intended to be a lay technique used by everyone.
We all have our own problems. Some may be big, some may be small but to often we tend to look at these problems as roadblocks and not opportunities to better ourselves. This mindset stops us from PUSHING FORWARD and TAKING CHARGE of our goals and our dreams. You want something, GO GET IT! You want to finish something, FINISH IT! LIFE is full of obstacles but If we let our minds take over our actions nothing will ever get done. We all know as the old saying goes… you are making a mountain out a mole hill, I prefer to make a mole hill out of a mountain. I am not saying that all challenges are small, there are many of us dealing with life altering
Here are some ways to help you move beyond your mountain and CONQUER what is stopping you:
Assess your situation:
Okay so you are confronted with something huge, DON’T run from it! Stop, breathe and center yourself and suddenly you will see that BIG problem get smaller and smaller.
STOP looking at the problem as A PROBLEM:
The worse thing that we can do is to always look at a situation as something we Can’t do. Yes, we all have our own “things” we are dealing with and we do have to be cautious. Some of us are dealing with back pain, leg pain, Cerebral Palsy, Epilepsy, High blood pressure, weight issues, the list goes on. does this mean we give up? NO! NEVER let these be Excuses to not embrace your “I CAN” ATTITUDE
Never Give Up and always live with HOPE in your heart without it we are nothing but with it we are EVERYTHING!
Keep on Keepin on Everyone!
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Oh my, this fear within me runs deeper than I realized. This part of me that wants to keep playing small and hiding behind everything and anything takes up more space inside of me than I thought.
One foot moves forward, ready and oh, so willing to take that leap once and for all. To soar into the unknown. To fly higher than it has ever known.
The other foot holds back – chained to the past and chained to the known. It knows that I am safe here. Unhappy, but safe.
The leaping foot tells this afraid foot that it will all be okay – that we can finally be truly happy if we believe that we will be okay in this new space. It tells it that the potential for lasting happiness exists in this new world – this world where faith is our safety net (thank you, sweet Julia for this beautiful way of looking at it).
The chained foot thinks it over and moves one step forward – still dragging this heavily weighted fear. And then it stops. What if we’re not safe? What if we fail? What if we end up even worse than we are now? What if we land flat on our face? And so it takes a step back – cowering to these questions.
It’s just too scary, it tells the leaping foot. We better just stay here for now.
The leaping foot, however, doesn’t give up very easily. It knows that this leap is essential – that it must leap in order to begin to live again. And so it gathers every ounce of courage it can find and leaps anyway. Not caring that the other foot might not want to come along. Not worrying about where it will land.
It knows so deeply and so completely that the universe will support it. It knows that the loving community around it will support it. It knows that if it didn’t leap soon, that it may never be brave enough to leap again.
And guess what?
This inner strength – this deep fortitude – this knowing that came from something so much bigger than itself – all of this was so powerful that it leaped with such force that it ripped the other foot from its chains, so they could both leap into this amazing world together!
This is the kind of power that we all have within ourselves. This is the kind of faith that it takes to leap into our truest lives. This is the kind of knowing that we all have to step into the unknown and embrace it, thrive in it, and love it.
And this is what I remember about myself (and all of us) when I am feeling afraid. This is what I remind myself of when I feel like I can’t go on. This is what I tell myself when I worry – when I am paralyzed. I remember my strength and my faith. I remember that my soaring self is so much stronger than my chained self.
And I leap. And not only will both feet be there to hold me up when I land – the universe will, too. This is what keeps me going. This is what keeps me moving forward. I have stepped into my power.
Jodi Chapman is the author of the inspirational blog, Soul Speak; the upcoming book, Coming Back to Life: How an Unlikely Friend Helped Me Reclaim My True Spirit; and the bestselling Soulful Journals series, co-authored with her husband, Dan Teck. She would love to connect on Facebook and Twitter.