Motivational Whisperers

 

Attracting  The Love You Desire 

There are numerous books, classes and retreats on attracting your mate.  You’ve spent time, energy and money but are still not in a relationship.  Did you ever wonder where the information falls short?  Let me tell you, much of the information you’ve used focuses on the other person, focuses outside of you. 

 

The information you’ve gotten allows you to sabotage yourself blocking you from the relationship you long for.  A feeling of helplessness comes over you.  Another year and you failed at having the relationship you long for.   
 

So that this year will be different, let’s start with focusing on YOU.  Focus on your qualities, the things you enjoy, the things that make your heart sing. 
 

Loving YOU first is the beginning of having that relationship and is easier than you think. This process requires acknowledging and taking the time to really discover yourself. Where do you fall short on loving you? What do you constantly find fault with in you? Do you lament and wish for something different, almost always having a feeling of unease or a feeling of being incomplete?

This is a sure sign that you do not love YOU first!

Exercising control of your mind is the first step in Loving YOU first. Letting go of old beliefs that no longer serve you stimulates the energy to put yourself first. By taking this first step, you open your energy channels to give and receive.

Loving YOU first helps to turn the tables, stamp out the helpless feeling and ensures that you take right action to attract your mate.  Using the three tips below gives you the courage and the right to fearlessly embrace your transformation of Loving YOU first.

1. Live on purpose. Using silence and planned mediation, allow your life’s purpose to wonderfully unfold before you. Discover the activities that make your heart sing. Engage joyfully in these activities.

2. Be honest. Be honest with yourself as well as others. What lies are you telling yourself based on false assumptions? The lies that you tell yourself are more harmful than those told to you by others because they undermine your self love.

3. Seek out and embrace new experiences. Your mind is much like a rubber band. Once expanded it never returns back to the original. Nothing sparks the mind like learning something new. Notice how easily you embrace the newness and it becomes a part of you.

Feel confident that you’re doing what’s right for you.  Reflect and meditate to make sure you’re on your right track. Listen to your inner voice. Most importantly, enjoy, have fun and know that loving YOU first is the silver lining for shifting gears to be in the relationship you desire.
 






Related Article: Creating Successful & Soulfilled Relationships.  

• Release destructive anger
• Let go of resentment
• Forgive yourself and others
• Break free from self-limiting beliefs
• Find self-acceptance and self-love
• Enhance your relationships with family, friends and co-workers
• Gain confidence
• Open your heart to allow peace and goodness flow

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Hmm, optimal productivity, creativity and  confidence in ten tips? There are more courses and books on the subject than we can keep track of.  After writing a book and several courses myself, reading books on "the work" and participating in brilliant  trainings, I will now share with you the ten optimal tips for optimal productivity, creativity and confidence.  

1.  Listen to and follow your intuition.

2.  Stay within your integrity- no matter what.

3.  Love and laugh!

4.  Forgive yourself  for mistakes, let go and move on. 

5.  Take time each day  to relax, to dream.

6.  Be a great listener.

7.  Stay healthy by practicing extreme self-care. (diet, sleep, exercise, relaxation techniques).

8.  Stop procrastinating and take action- to move forward or to drop the project.

9.  Begin each day with positive visualizations of successful outcomes of your goals.

10.  Believe in yourself and your goals; create affirmations and post them onto mirrors, in an accessible notebook and in the car.


 In order for these tips to be effective one must truly have the intention to succeed.  Find out more about this subject on my website www.balanceandpower.com and  contact me for a complimentary phone consult to discuss this and related topics.

As you go through your regular daily routine it can be hard to take a few moments to do something nice for yourself. Taking time to care for YOU is however, an important part of recognizing you deserve love, are worthy of goodness and will encourage others to treat you well in return.

Each simple thing that you do can have a very positive affect on your sense of self and your well being! Try out one or two of these this week and enjoy the happiness boost that you give to yourself!

1.) Cook "comfort food"- Comfort food doesn't have to be unhealty or packed with calories! When you're feeling the need for a bit of nurturing make something that your Mom or Grandmom used to fix! Chicken & dumplin's is one of my favorites! Mmmm....Make enough that you can indulge in more than one meal so that you won't have to cook again for a day! You'll love the way it makes you feel and it will give you a break in the kitchen for a bit!

2.) Indulge in aromatherapy- Scents trigger memories that can uplift your spirit in wonderful ways! Treat yourself to a reed diffuser, new candle or even a new body spray! Lavender is relaxing, ylang ylang induces feelings of romance and anything citrus boosts energy levels! Take a few minutes to sniff a variety of scents and pick out the one that suits your positive intentions! (*Shopping Hint- Wal-Mart has a amazing assortment of scents in their craft section! You can pick your glass bottle, your oil and your reeds to create a personalized diffuser for under $10! I have found the oil quality is fairly good and really does diffuse throughout a large room! My favorite, the Jasmine and White Gardenia oil. Oh yum!) If your budget is TIGHT put a few cinnamon sticks or cloves in a pot and simmer them slowly on the stove! You can do this with rosemary too!

3.) Use your local library for fun, Free treats for YOU!- Dive into a good book, relax with a movie or download a digital book copy for your ereader! I have been amazed recently by the resources available from my local library! Spend the day rushing off to an exotic location with an adventure story, catch up on your favorite TV shows through their DVD series copies or even find an audio book to listen to while pampering yourself in the tub! Whatever you choose you can't go wrong with free and fun entertainment for YOU time!

4.) Sleep in or go to bed early! How much sleep do you get each night? Most people only manage an average of only 5 hours. Indulge your mind, body and spirit in a rejuvenation day by allowing yourself a day to catch up on rest! You will find yourself energized and be refreshed in spirit as you take on the tasks of a new day!

5.) Unplug for a day! Even though it may not seem possible, the world can and will continute to function if you take a day off! All of the wonderful tools which keep us connected, cell phones, computers and more, do take a toll on our energy levels. The EMF's that are emitted from electronices can be draining! If you have been feeling unusually tired try unplugging for a few hours and focusing on something you have been longing to do! Paint a picture, go for a walk or even sit in a cafe' sipping something delicious! Your body and mind with thank you!


Be creative and schedule time to spend with you! As you recognize you are worthy of treating yourself well you raise your vibration! As you raise your vibration you attract things and people of a higher quality! Indulging yorself isn't a selfish act it is anecessary one! You deserve it!

Each and every person desires to create a connection with others. Be it a spiritual, romantic or friendly connection there is something to be said about sharing our lives with friends and family. The key to any successful relationship is to FIRST develop a loving relationship with yourself. When you love yourself and treat yourself well, others will take notice and treat you in kind.

How do you begin to form a loving relationship with yourself? By taking the time to look within and discover who you truly are. Each and every person has amazing gifts to share with the world. Discovering your talents and self worth will open up the doors to creating supportive and successful relationships. As you embark on this journey of self discovery you will in time understand your motivations, dreams, desires, what makes you happy and truly you. The important thing is to become aware of your value. Set aside time to do something nice for yourself daily and cultivate a loving relationship with YOU. As you begin to acknowledge your talents, realize that you are worthy of goodness and love and recognize the Divine light that shines within, you will begin to attract positive and loving people into your life.

Each day take a few moments to relax in a quiet location. Even 15 minutes will do as a beginning! Sit quietly and open your mind to creating a vision of your ideal life. What do you see taking place, who do you see sharing this life with you? As you form a mental picture you will then begin to shift to a place of self awareness and understanding. If sitting quietly doesn't appeal to you, take the time to journal each day. A journal is a wonderful way to open up to your inner thoughts and desires.

Each moment that you devote to discovering your authentic self is a deposit in the bank of your self-worth. There is no other person like you and the world will be a better place when you share your unique talents with others. Once you cultivate an authentic and loving relationship with yourself you will begin to attract positive and supportive relationships into your life.

Appreciate yourself, recognize your worth and share the wonder that is you with the world!

Becoming a love magnet can be FUN whether you are already in a relationship or looking to start one. Either way, boosting the levels of LOVE in your life is a wonderful thing to experience.

The first thing to consider when desiring to attract love is, How do you feel about you? Ladies, this is KEY! Nothing is more attractive or appealing than a self-confident woman!

Take some time alone and discover what makes you tick. Tap into your talents and let them shine!

The best way to do this is through a few minutes of reflection each day. Still your mind and reach into your inner-self. What makes you happy, what do you enjoy doing, what makes you feel beautiful! Allow the thoughts to run through your mind and when you touch on something that feels wonderful, take note of it. That will be one place for you to begin creating positive shifts!

Doing what makes you feel wonderful is empowering, as you become empowered you will notice new feelings of self-confidence! That ladies is ATTRACTIVE! The more you discover what makes you the special person that you are, and nurture yourself and those wonderful qualities, the more others will begin to notice! What a MAGNETIC shift.

Take the time to invest in you, discover how amazing you are and attract people to you, the AMAZING love magnet!

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Have you found that you work hard to try and change people? A spouse, partner, friend or family member? Maybe even a co-worker or client. It can be exhausting and frustrating and in truth is a fruitless endeavor; the only person you can change is YOU!

One of my favorite quotes is, “Be the change that you wish to see in the world.”

This is the basis for success in every relationship and endeavor that you engage in. Whatever you seek to achieve, allow yourself to be the best that you can be. Love yourself, better yourself and as you do your energy will change and be uplifted in positive ways! THIS is what others will respond to!

Like attracts like. As you change for the better, you will find that two things happen. One, you will attract new people and new situations that are better aligned with your current experience. Two, the people around you will either, step up and want to become a part of the new you or they will fall away as they no longer support you on your journey to bettering yourself and your life. Each one is a new experience and even though it may not be comfortable for a short time, growing pains mean just that, you are GROWING!

Love yourself, follow the path you were born to live and keep raising yourself to new levels. As you do, you WILL be the change that you wish to see in the world and in your life. People will either raise themselves to meet you or you will discover that it is time to move on.

Knowing that you have the power within you to create a positive experiece for your life, is the greatest resource that you can draw on to achieve joy, abundance, love and success!

Tap into the amazing you that you are and BE the change that you wish to see in the world.

How do you feel about you? Do you LOVE yourself, your life and everything about you?

There is not another person like you in this world! Did you know you have unique gifts and talents that you were born with, that the world needs each and every day?

Many people may find this hard to believe. Throughout each and every day, stress, outside influences, disappointments and more can add up to a very low sense of self. When you experience these things it becomes harder and harder to tap into the essence of you and recognize how INCREDIBLE you are!

Self-esteem and self-confidence are a huge factor in how you approach each and every day. If you feel as though your opinions don’t count, you won’t speak up. Or if you feel that someone is prettier or better looking than you, you may not approach someone that you are attracted to. Don’t sell yourself short! Uniquely you is ALWAYS good enough!

How do you break out of the cycle of feeling unworthy and low self-confidence? Begin with this simple exercise. Make a list of five things that you truly LOVE about you. It is sometimes hard to come up with this list as it may feel false or unreal, but keep going and find a few things that are amazing about you. It may be your eyes, your ability to listen or even a special talent such as dancing! No matter what you put down on your list, make certain that you truly feel and believe these things! Next, post your list somewhere that you can see it often. Inside of your wallet or purse, in the front of your day planner or journal, anywhere that you will be reminded how amazing you are!

This simple exercise can create a shift in your mindset which will help you to focus on the qualities you love in yourself instead of focusing on the negatives. Over time, add to your list, change the things that you like most and continue to boost your self-confidence!

You are the only person that can be the best YOU! Share your gifts with the world and be INCREDIBLE!

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I started writing a post about organization. And in it I talked about how in my ideal life everything flowed beautifully and life was magical. And then I started talking about my actual life and how things truly weren’t running as seamlessly as I would like them to. I talked about the endless list of to-dos and the piles upon piles of folders and projects and orders and call backs and write tos that needed to be finished.

You always have a choice.  When you make the choices below you choose happiness: