Motivational Whisperers

To help get our heads around how self-talk affirmations work, a few bases can be conveniently reviewed. Let’s start with this concept of unwrapping a problem. The idea of unwrapping suggests that problems, at least of the ego/emotional type are hidden and tough to get at – it’s those intentions, out of sight, that cause the problems.

This concept of problem unwrapping cuts across the grain of our American, everyday explanations for our problems. Usually, people will give one-word, (single-factor) accounts of what troubles them. For example, Joe asks, “What’s wrong?” Jane says, “I’m sad!” Or, she might say, I worried, lonely, broke, always tired, etc., etc.

The problem is not that Jane is sad or broke or always tired; those are symptoms of the problem. There could be a 101 different things (perhaps none of them related) that could be contributing to Jane’s symptom of sadness or whatever.

The point is: We want to get self-talk affirmations to work for us, like, right now! The more narrowly the affirmations can be focused on a correctly identified root issue, the more rapid and profound the transformation will be.

Well, our desire to get this done has got to lead us to believe we should figure out what self-talk, pep talk we need to give to ourselves. Interestingly enough, what you will affirm to yourself just falls out of unwrapping the problem – it’s almost a twofer.

Your mission, then, should you choose to accept it, is to reflect a little more deeply, to get in touch with your intuitions, and then let your intuitions lead you to the root of the issues.

Drill down to the point where you are getting emotional conflicts and blocks – as they say.

The process begins with you reflecting, intuitively on your intentions. Look closely to see where your current attitudes about yourself fit with your desire to use positive thinking to get past your problems. If anything is a candidate for causing trouble it’s a negative intention, especially one hid out somewhere. Use your intuition to identify and root out a negative intention. You’ve go to want to, though.

As silly as it may sound, many people stay in an abusive relationship with themselves, jus the way many stay in an abusive relationship with others. Whatever your intentions are, they are there for you to unwrap. Use your mind’s eye. You’ll get it! Then, get over it – the problem.

To borrow an acronym from the goal management folks – be SMART. You want to uncover a manageable problem – crawl, walk, run, fly. You are going to target your affirmations at a problem that is specific, measurable, attainable, realistic and time limited. I want you to set limits on what you want to unwrap and resolve. A well-structured ending helps you to prioritize and establish your purpose and to focus your affirmations on dissolving your problem for your growth.

Okay. You want to take advantage of the information you uncovered with your intuitions. Take into consideration the specific insights you uncovered in regards to your personal history. Take time to identify and the correct any false perceptions or misunderstandings you may have discovered and find some way that knowing about those new insights can change your intentions.

Nothing quite like prejudice or misplaced passion to skew and intention over to the “dark-side.”

Now, go and find some more information – this round, you’re looking outside yourself - be it from books, blogs, friends, family, whatever. Just soak it all in and let your intuitions sort it out. Don’t worry about being lied to or deceived or brainwashed. I can’t tell you the number or times people have told me things that were both stupid and false but have led to profound changes in my life.

The idea is not to be a mindless sponge soaking up all that comes your way. Just take it in and ask yourself whether it makes sense to you. Does it ring true? If not, just considering an untruth has led you to some truth. Let your intuitions mull over all that info and teach you something new that you can use to unwrap the problem you’ve selected to work on.

Open the windows. Let the breeze blow in.

Put together a support team. Support comes in all shapes and sizes from a supportive environment of friends and family, where trust and rapport are shared to informal or paid services. Again, follow your inner voice in selecting among alternatives.

Since your mission is to build a positive relationship with you, ask your support team for clarification. Have them elaborate on your thought process as you move toward unwrapping your selected problem. If some notion going through your mind is vague or otherwise not making sense, emphasize to your support group those areas where you see clarification is needed.

Move to eliminate confusion.

Once you’ve got that gut feeling that you’ve unwrapped your problem, switch focus. Change your focus to finding, or better yet writing your own, affirmations. By the time you’ve unwrapped your problem, you will know exactly what self-talk affirmations to tell yourself.

All that’s left is to apply the affirmations, to readapt your thinking so that you change your intentions. A problem well understood contains its own solution. Since the solution is self-talk affirmations, you’ll just know what to say to your self. Use your intuition to unwrap your problems then your intuitions will discover the right affirmations for you.

This process of intuitive introspection will help you gradually clear up your confusion leading to the unwrapping of your problems. Our inner sight is the source that helps us to discover our higher mind.

Take it easy, one problem at a time, be SMART and until you get it solved, lose the shame or guilt.

All right: here’s an affirmation you can repeat to yourself while you are working toward uncovering your own affirmations. “There is nothing I could ever do to keep the Divine Source of life from loving me – I am worthy.”

Blessed be. Marl