Are Your Resistance and Doubts Keeping You Stuck?
By Melissa Zollo
I am always amazed when people talk about their intentions and how much they want to make their life great. It is inspiring to listen to another person’s hopes and dreams, yet within minutes, no matter what they have said, accomplished or how much they have acquired, so often they exhibit some dominant limiting pattern of thought, beliefs, and habits that leaves them feeling hopeless, powerless, and stuck in resistance. It is this resistance or mood that prevents them from achieving the next level of success.
If we would stop
long enough to examine ourselves, we would probably
discover that we are hanging out in a fortress of
resistance and a habitat of doubts. The walls of fear
are fortified with reasons and excuses for why things are the
way they are. A person’s resistance to changing their well fed
habits is having more power over them than their desire or
determination to realize their goals. They are lacking in
decision and the commitment to break free.
Often doubts trigger automatic resistance and reactions. It takes no effort to react compulsively, without taking the time to use a solution based approach or the creative thinking required to design a new response. We all have our compulsive reactions. We all are misused by them. We all have play acted as if we had been rendered impotent and powerless by some person, event, or situation. The truth is that this is simply habit and old conditioning showing up.
- What are some of your learned doubts and excuses for not facing or dealing with your resistance? List the obvious ones.
- What do they give you?
- What comfort do they offer? Now go for the really subtle ones. This will take some effort. It takes a disciplined eye to catch and expose these inner parasites and bring the boogie monster out into the light.
“Resistance-boogie-monster-thoughts” can scream and torture you, frightening you with their negative messages. Sometimes they are so loud you want to cover your head for fear that someone else will hear. Then there are the seductive ones, the simmering ones that flow in a quiet whisper, like brook water, past our sensors and inner ear. Do any of these sound familiar?
“It’s not my fault that it happened, it’s hers.”
“I am so tired and just too stressed out.”
“If only I had the money.”
“I just can't find the time.”
“I promise I will start right after …”
“Times are hard for everyone. The world is going to pot.”
“I guess I just accept living a life that doesn’t make me happy.”
“I can’t forgive, you don’t know what they did to me.”
“Money, I need money. If I had money, then I’d be happy.”
Do you ever wonder why you cling to ideas that are inspired by rejection, sadness, and mistaken choices?There may be many good reasons for you to feel the way that you feel right now. Seek to understand them and then open the door to your true passion. You have so much to gain if you will seek to correct all “the hurt” and move beyond the resistance.
Resistance and doubts are frequently fueled from fear of success. So often you sit around waiting for someone to rescue you, notice you, want you, need you and you focus everywhere else to avoid the beginning of healing. You anticipate problems, give up at challenges, and lose faith in yourself when storms appear. You sit down on the side lines for time-out when you should be getting back up and deciding that you are the next all-star come back kid of the season. Isn't it time to break out of your lobster trap of resistance and doubts and stop repelling the love, happiness, and success that are here right now? When you fall into the excuse, resist, and doubt yourself mode, you are using the laws of success in opposition to their intent of fulfilling your goals.
You are designed to be all that you desire to be.
If you want to become a
vibrant, creative, responsible, powerful, human being, then
stop transferring all of your power over to inner soundtracks
that derail your forward motion. Refuse to allow people
and circumstances to slowly strip away your natural ability to
design new success results. Habit, resistance, and
excuses, and addiction to failure sabotage more dreams that any
outer circumstances and keep you bound to an unhappy past
memory. They cause more misery than any epidemic or terrorist
Why allow your denial and low frequency feeling to camouflage truth another moment? Why permit your old record of excuses to reprogram your best-designed hopes and aspirations and rob you of a life of rich experiencing that you will love?
Think of a moment when you achieved success using Spiritual Laws and had a great breakthrough whether in your personal life or in your career, in finances or in spiritual awareness. Can you see the possibility that you attracted success because you felt confident, because you had an inner conviction and your inner blueprint was strong?
*** You banished doubt and did not allow yourself to cave in to old patterns or let old excuses stop you.
*** You refused to let your past memory torpedo you in the present moment.
*** You removed your focus from a harvest of doubts and excuses and used your emotional fertilizers to achieve your goals.
*** You stopped being seduced, and ultimately you chose a new thought pattern.
declared success, and summoned the fulfillment of your
BRAVO!!! If you did it once in any area of your life, you can reframe your perception anytime. You can redesign anything when you have a strong enough desire to live in a "doubt/fear-free inner zone.”
There comes a time when your decision, courage, commitment, and progress must no longer be halted by the line-up of excuses, justifications, doubts, and resistance. There comes a time when you need to test spiritual principles out and know if they are true, and to do this you must remain committed to your images and take the time to invest in designing new beliefs until you believe in yourself.
Choose now: Do you want to surrender all excuses for accepting what you don't want? Or do you want to grow, expand, advance, and succeed?
If you really deep listen and know what you want, and if you understand the laws of success and apply them faithfully, then you will have found the best antidote to the chronic return to resistance and abuse by doubts. It is to have a strong and vital image for your life, one that deeply ignites you into action, into joy, into feeling alive and wonderful, right here and now. Taking inner action prepares the way for the energy for opening doors to success where you didn’t even know they existed!
Learn to Image First Now!
Will you accept the
challenge to change one area of your life where you're not
making the progress you dream of? Start by
identifying the top five doubts you use to avoid really
changing yourself. Ask yourself how you use resistance
to justify your current problems.
Are you ready to commit to aligning yourself with your new mental success blueprint instead of returning your old habits? If you are, then take a deep breath, stand up tall, and consciously claim this area of your life as a doubt and fear-free zone.
Activate your imagination. Image First and you will set a new pattern into motion for all future creative acts and results. Do this and you will prove to yourself that there is but one substance, consciousness or energy, and you are free to use it in creating your world and yourself.
Consciousness in action is imagination in action! Remember that your feelings can link you to a world where all things are possible once you know How to Unleash the Power Within and Attract Money and Discover the Power of Imagination.
Never close a door on a dream – your dreams are calling you!
Melissa Zollo, law of attraction and self motivation and imagination specialist, is the author of "Discover the Power of Imagination" and "How to Unleash the Power With and Attract Money" CD audio programs. FREE daily tips and newsletter available at www.presentmemory.com.(All rights reserved. Contact the author to reprint)