Self confidence is something that you already have. It is ever expanding and there is always room for growth. Think of all the things that you do on a daily basis that you feel confident in. These are things that you already do without even thinking such as walking, bathing, eating, driving, talking reading and writing.
To get self confidence what you want to do is expand on the things that you already do well. Think of all of your successes. What have you done that you can be proud of?
When you have confidence in your abilities you begin to see failures as obstacles to be overcome. Your confidence increases as you identify and conquer each challenge that comes your way.
Be grateful for everything that you have and everything that you can do. First thing in the morning when your feet touch the floor, be grateful that you can walk, for your hardwood floors or for the plush carpeting under your toes. As you brush your teeth, be grateful that you have teeth to eat with and that you have a sense of taste to enjoy every morsel of food that you consume. The more things you find to be grateful for, the more good flows into your life. With each good thing you gain awareness and confidence.
Get self confidence by NOT allowing others to influence you. You may be quick to listen to and believe everything other people tell you, especially those closest to you. After all you know that they have your best interest at heart and would never lie to you.
Keep in mind that even the closest person to you - DOES NOT KNOW YOU like you know you! No one else can feel your pain, know your aspirations, dream your dreams, know your intention or know your thoughts.
When someone tells you something, ask yourself the following questions and be honest with yourself:
"Is this true?"
"Does this serve any purpose in my life?"
"Do I choose to accept it as fact?"
For example if I told you that you have pink hair, your first instinct is to hit the "Reject" button in your mind.
However if I told you that you shouldn’t wear orange because it's too bright of a color, you might think - wow, I've been wearing orange all these years, I even get compliments when I've worn orange ... I guess I've changed, I better stop wearing orange!" or if I said you're not smart enough to run a business, you might think "Yeah, that's right I don't know why I am wasting my time trying to start a business, because I'm just not smart enough". For some reason you have chosen to press the "Accept" button.
We would have missed out on so many wonderful inventions if Thomas Edison would have hit the "Accept" button when his teacher told him he was confused and stupid. Where would we be today if Henry Ford would have given up after his first failure or if the Wright brothers would have listened to people that told them that man could not fly?
Keep your “Reject” button handy and reject anything that does not fit with your dreams and desires.
Don't listen to other peoples opinions of you. Be yourself, nurture your unique talents and give the gift to the world that is within you!
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Cindy Holbrook is a Certifified Professional Confidence and Empowerment Life Coach. She is the host of her own Internet TV show called "Building Self Confidence."Visit CindySense.com and sign up for her free Bi-Weekly Inspirational and Empowering Newsletter filled with empowering articles, affirmations, motivational tips and quotes.