Motivational Whisperers

In order to make 2012 your best year yet, experts suggest that we schedule a few minutes to ask ourselves and answer a few questions so our year is planned in advance. As you likely know, planning is bringing the future into the present, writing crystallizes thinking and crystallized thought motivates action.

1. What am I doing to improve and use more of my potential? 

2. What goals have I written to accomplish?

3. Are they specific, measureable, attainable, realistic and tangible? (SMART Goals)

4. Have I created detailed plans of actions with monthly steps to reach them?

5. What obstacles do I face to achieve these goals?

6. How am I going to overcome these obstacles and roadblocks?

The following study demonstrates the importance of goal setting:

VALUE of WRITTEN

 GOALS
 

 Harvard Business School Survey of Successful People 

The 3% group with written goals outproduced the 10% group from10 to 100 to 1!

The average net worth of the 3% group was  50 times greater than the 10% group!!!

 I have several coaching packages to help you formulate and reach your goals and offer a FREE CONSULTATION:
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How are you holding up? Sometimes, especially during this time of year, we expect ourselves to be superhuman. We want to cook the best meals, be the best hosts, get everything checked off of our list, plan our next year, wrap all of our gifts, and do it all absolutely perfectly. We want everything to go just as we planned. We push ourselves to the limit to make sure this happens, and we crumble when things go wrong. Are you feeling some of this pressure right now?

I definitely am. For those of you who follow my blog, you may have noticed that my posting in the past couple of months has gotten more and more infrequent. If I’m being completely honest about it, this really bothers me. I don’t want to have to admit that I can’t do it all. I thought that I would be able to write every day and get through the busy holiday season with my gift business. But guess what I’m realizing? I’m human. I have 24 hours in the day just like everyone else – and even if I stay up until 4 or 5 in the morning making and packing orders (it’s true), I still couldn’t catch up enough to where I could also write. It was a huge wake-up call for me, which is why I wrote the Are You In? post last week. I now know that I can’t do both – the gift business and writing. So I’m choosing to write and saying goodbye to the business.

Because of all of this superhuman pushing, Dan and I both got sick. But we knew that we couldn’t take time off – not when there were hundreds of orders to make and ship. So we continued to push.

Our dear friends were scheduled to arrive, and I still wasn’t well. And still we pushed to get the house ready for them.

I thought we were doing a great job of keeping up with it all – orders were going out, we were getting healthier, and our friends were here. And then they opened the microwave to make some tea. My worst fear was realized – we forgot to clean out the tapioca explosion that had occurred. I felt mortified and guess what? Human. My skeletons were exposed – I wasn’t perfect. I was just getting by. I had pushed myself as far as I could go. The house wasn’t immaculate. I wasn’t writing every day. I wasn’t taking care of myself. I was human.

And you know what? It’s okay.

Our friends laughed about the microwave and asked if they could help us catch up with the orders. They embraced our humanness because they love us, and we do the same with them. The challenge is to be able to turn this love and acceptance onto ourselves.

I am human, and so are you. And while I know that we know this in our heads, remembering this at all moments can sometimes be challenging, especially during this time of year.

And so over the next few days when you are celebrating the season and spending time with your family, please remember this. It’s okay if the casserole doesn’t turn out like you had hoped. It’s okay if the gift that you brought for your sister arrived broken. It’s all okay. Take some time to accept and embrace your humanness. And then embrace this in everyone you come across. This is a good thing. We aren’t machines. We aren’t programmed to be perfect. That’s the beauty of being human. We get to make mistakes and learn from them. We get to cut ourselves some slack. We get to enjoy life and laugh about all of this.

So thank you for accepting my humanness, and thank you for embracing your own.

Happy holidays! I can’t wait to see what 2012 brings for all of us! ♥

I am very intuitive as are many of you reading this article.  When I experience the "chills-tingles" and a feeling that rings true I know it's my intuition- or that something is true...no matter what. 




Today a coaching client revealed to me in the first  three minutes that she is "very intuitive" was wondering if her feelings and actions were perhaps fear based; was it fear or intuition that was leading her to feel "compelled" to take some actions that she was not happy about, that she was seeing me today to gain greater insight into and understand if it was fear or intuition that was leading her.

 This evening, no coincidence that nothing was "on demand" TV  that I was interested in, so I picked up a professional journal that was on my coffee table all week - "Choice the magazine of professional coaching" ; this issue focusing on "Intuition & Coaching".  One of the many interesting articles written by colleagues pertains to the fear or intuition question.
 

 Now, back to my client.  After discussing her issues and challenges, we decided to "tap" (EFT- Emotional Freedom Techniques) on the issue of feeling compelled to do something that she admittedly felt shame  about - that was clearly giving her anxiety attacks. 


When we began, her feeling of distress about this was 10 on a scale of 1-10.  After several rounds of tapping she was down to 5, and saying she was feeling more at ease, relaxed.

In the process, a few core issues revealed themselves - revelations to her and more material for us to work on in 2012.  In the process, I also gave her three medical referrals to holistic doctors.  I used my intuition in facilitating EFT and it guided all my statements and questions, which gave me a greater insight into what my client truly needed.  


This of course gave my client a deeper level of understanding and clarity as well, because I  tuned into her through my intuition and not the analytical side of my brain. 

 If you need help uncovering your true feelings and direction, I'm available for a complimentary consult via phone or skype.

Are you wondering why you're you business isn't reaching all those lofty goals you set? Once Upon Time   you had a wish for your business.  You were excited motiviated and above all you believed in your dream.   Are you thinking that wishes are just meant to stay that way, a wish?  That couldn't be further from the truth.  Which one of these wish killers are you guilty of committing?   

  How to Grow Your Buiness & Stay Away From the Wish & Dream Killer Mistakes
 

1. You don't believe it.   How many times have you made a wish thinking it is only a wish and wishes don't really come true? Maybe other people get their wish but not me.  That may be the reason your wish is not coming true, you do not believe it will happen.

2.   There is no deadline on the wish.  Always put a deadline on your dream or wish.  This action is the beginning of turning your wish into a reality.  It is a way of keeping you focused and on track.

3.  There is no action plan.  Once you have a wish you want to make a plan of action that has you starting that day.  It's important to start while you are motivated.  Even if you do one small step towards making your wish come true that is a step in the right direction.

4. Your making it more complicated than it has to be.  Most of us grew up with the idea that the harder the better.  Anything easy is not worth going after.  Because of this we make things more difficult then they really are.  The acronym KISS means, keep it simple stupid I replace stupid with smart-one.   You get the idea. Less is more.

5.  Holding on to self- limiting beliefs. You have to have money to make money.  There are hundreds of ways to generate money for a project.  One way is to involve a key influencer in your niche and suggest a joint venture.

6.    Time is a big one. Not giving allowing enough time to complete it.  If you set a deadline because you need to make money by that time you are setting yourself up for failure.  If your wish is about starting a new business you need plenty of time.  If you don't have the income to devote eight hours a day then work part time or flex time to fund your business.  Realize that you need more time since you may only devote ten hours a week to getting your business started.

Make sure you use those ten hours wisely.  If you make them count you can accomplish the important elements that will set in place a strong foundation.  Have a date set where you will be able to focus full time on your business. 

7.  Giving up.  This is one sure way to kill a wish.  I see this wish killer the most.   The reason is usually one of the sex steps preceding this was skipped.  The wish is not realized and people give up.  They give up their dream because they think it isn't attainable.  That isn't the case, anything is attainable, and you wouldn't have the dream in the first place if you didn't have the ability to carry all the way to success. 

To sum it up, give your wish a deadline write down the top three things you can do every day to make that wish a reality.  Always start with the most important thing that moves you closer to your wish and break it into small easy steps that are attainable  this way you don't resist starting each day.

Partner with someone who has the side of the equation you don't have, like a active list of at least 3,000 people.   If you have something to offer that the other business partner needs that will make a winning venture.  Don't get discouraged if the first couple of tries don't get the results you had hoped for.  You will get there in time however, don't even think about  giving up that is the only way your business dream won't come true. 

It’s all about first impressions.  Your Opt-in is more important than anything else you do.  It’s the first impression when someone visits your website and what they can find there.  Let’s compare your opt-in to a first date.

What Do You Do?

Bad Opt-In: “Hey, I threw in this in for free. No sense in giving away any valuable information.”

Customer: Geez, this isn’t what I thought it would be.  It doesn’t tell me anything!

Good Opt-In: “I make people feel special.”

Customer:  Wow, great information.  I really learned something.

Pay careful attention to who you actually attract ... how do the people who buy your services see the industry, what do they care about, who do they listen to, what are their values?

Who Cares About What You Do?

Bad Opt-In: “It doesn’t matter; I’m just about getting your name and email address so I can sell you stuff.

Customer: “Am I just another face in the crowd?

Good Opt-In: “I care about you and your pain.”

Customer: They really get what I need and I see how they can help me.

Your opt-in looks like or was done by a professional.  You spent time figuring out what your potential client’s pain is and how you can help them.  You provide valuable content that is relevant to your target market. 

How Do You Access Who Cares?

Bad Opt-In: “I’ll just keep sending you emails in hopes that you’ll go out with me again.”

Customer:  Holy cr**!  I wish this person would stop sending so many emails every day.  It’s all sell, sell, sell.  Unsubscribe!

Good Opt-In: “I respect you.”

Customer: I really want to know more about what this company does and how they can help me.  I’ll sign up for a class or buy one of their products.

Your opt-in really is the first impression people get when they come to your website.  I don’t believe that you can ever give away too much information.  Not everyone can do what YOU do, but you can certainly help them understand what it is that you do.

What impression is YOUR opt-in saying about you and your business?

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 Here are tried and true survival tips for the “sandwich” or “open sandwich” generation challenged  folks among us: 

1. Keep the big picture forefront,  try not to get lost in negative possibilities.
    
2. Be patient.  Perhaps reframe a situation to have more (positive) possibilities.
    
3. Understand your own agenda and priorities.  If you’re having difficulty doing this, pay special attention to #4  and  #5  and  possibly seek advice.
    
4. Follow your mind and heart.
    
5. Stay focused.  Meditate.  Breathe. 
    
6. Take care of yourself.
    
7. Ask for help when possible.

This is one of my favorite lists by one of this generation's wisemen:
Deepok Chopra.

1.       Listen to your body’s wisdom, which expresses itself through the signals of comfort and discomfort.  When choosing a certain behavior, ask your body, “How do you feel about this?”  If the body sends a signal of physical or emotional distress, watch out!  If the body responds with joy and comfort – go for it!

2.       Live in the moment.  The present is the only moment you have.  Have your attention on what  IS and see its fullness in every moment.  Have psychological acceptance totally and completely that this present moment is as it should be.  How could it be otherwise?  This moment is as is because the universe is as is.  Don’t struggle against the universe.

3.       Take time to be silent, to quiet the internal dialogue, to be guided by your intuition, rather nthan the externally imposed interpretations of what is and what is not good.

4.       Relinquish your need for approval.  There is great freedom in that choice.

5.       When you find yourself reacting with anger or violence to any  person, situation or circumstance- recognize that you struggle only against yourself.  Don’t be so hard on yourself.

6.       Know that those you react to strongly whether you love them or hate them, are reflections of yourself.  Use the mirror of relationship to guide your own spiritual revolution.

7.       Shed the burden of judgement- you will feel much lighter.

8.       Don’t contaminate your body with toxins: food, drink or toxic emotions.

9.       Replace fear-motivated behavior by love-motivated behavior.

10.    Understand that the physical world mirrors the process in our own consciousness.  Cleaning up the environment and getting rid of toxic wastes and dumps that contaminate our earth, its rivers and oceans is worthwhile, but even more important is the flushing out of toxic ideas that contaminate the human mind.

Reprinted from Creations Magazine Spring ’95

I have studied these principles and apply them in my life.  Being human, I am do not always do this :). I help my clients to live them as well.  I explore many of them in my interactive manual  SOAR! with Resilience™   and tell success stories of my own as well as clients who have gone on to be happy and SOAR!  You may contact me for a complimentary consult: BalanceandPower  516 623 4353



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