Have you ever wanted to confront your fears?
What would you tell them and why? Our fears come in all shapes
and sizes, but no matter what, we MUST NOT let them get in the
way of anything that we want to accomplish in life. If you could
write a letter to your fear, what would it sound like?
Would it be full of anger and hate? Or would it be a letter that tells your fear how it has helped shape you and allowed you to move on with your life? Any fear is scary, and any fear CAN and WILL be OVERCOME, you just have to give it time.
I’ve found that by telling my clients to address their fears in a letter has been a very therapeutic and helpful way in addressing their fear and letting it know that they have carried it around for long enough and they are READY to LET IT GO. Here is an example that I have written to my fear. How would you address yours?
I know you are here, and I acknowledge that. Even though you may show up from time to time, I WILL NOT let you take control of my life! Regardless of how often you try and defeat me, NOTHING will get in my way of following through on what my life has in store for me. Thank you for keeping me on my toes and making me a much stronger person.
Here are some ways to help conquer your fears:
- Write your fear a letter: Letter it know how you feel. How it has hurt your progress and how it has also made you stronger to move on and follow your dream.
- Journal your fears: Write down what makes you afraid. When we write down what is holding you back, it will allow you to reflect and loosen fears grip by observing it. The more you acknowledge that your fear is there, the less of a threat it will become
- Take small steps: All it takes is one step, not a giant leap. Taking small steps towards your fear is better than taking none at all. Remember every small step taken is equals one big step towards conquering your fear.
- Believe in yourself: Don’t cloud your mind up with negative thoughts. Know that YOU CAN do anything that you wish to do. Set up your mind for success and take it from there.
Keep on Keeping on Everyone,
Daniel is the owner of Motivational Wellness, a service based company focused on helping women loses weight and feel more confident in their own skin. He also provides services that help anyone that is ready to take control of their lifestyle and push through the boundaries of their mind and body to make the changes necessary to live a happier, healthier existence. Contact him here @ www.Motivationalwellness.com
There's one fabulous reason why you
were called to be in business for yourself: You are
meant to be great. You are meant to soar and uplift others along
You are meant to stare your fears right in the eyes and then go ahead, do what you're called to do, and Be Boldly Brilliant. Whenever you come up with a new idea, whenever you're about to step out of your comfort zone into the unknown, the voice of your Ego Mind, your Inner Gremlin, will try to take you out, giving you hundreds of reasons why you can't.
But your soul will always be there, waiting, giving you gentle nudges, until you get it: Once you take the first, tiny step toward what you're called to do, you will always be supported by the Divine Love.
Boldly Brilliant Action
Step: What is the idea or desire that keeps coming
back into your life? What is the inspired action that you've been
attracted to but haven't dared to take?
Today, get out of your way. Make a list of why you actually CAN - and then go ahead and take the first tiny step. There's always a way, and once you show up with courage and determination, you will be divinely guided and supported.
Being stuck in your past, reviewing
what went wrong, what you could have done differently,
what you should or shouldn't have done or said. That's a very
toxic place to be. It's a dark maze filled with guilt and shame
that doesn't allow you to see the light outside its walls.
What's your past, really? Only a series of choices and decisions that you made at a certain point in your life, based on your knowledge, wisdom and previous experience, using the resources available to you at that time. That choice was necessary for you to grow, learn and become better. That choice, and its result, is a gem to be used to learn and discover who you are and what you really truly want. The shame and guilt is not about the choice, but about the judgment that you see the choice through.
Boldly Brilliant Action
Step: Pick one choice or decision from the past that
still haunts you. Write down all the constrictive, negative
emotions connected to it. Now ask yourself: What did I learn from
this? How was this meant to help me on my path?
How does this experience empower you? Write down the new, positive, encouraging emotions connected to the situation now that you have turned it around. Remember, the way you see it, and the way you deal with it, is a choice, and it's only up to you.
We often frenetically search for the purpose of our life, thinking it must be something grandiose. However, your life purpose is very simple, yet incredibly powerful: To BE the best you can be, to reach for the stars, to stubbornly pursue your dreams, to share your gifts, to be of service, to continuously expand and grow.
As a soul-filled, heart-centered woman in business, you are in the most magnificent space of all. Your possibilities are truly unlimited, and there is virtually nothing you can't do, be or have. You have the ability to touch the lives of many, and make the world a better place just by being YOU.
Boldly Brilliant Action Step: Today, make a list of all the people that your being in business has touched. Not only your clients, but also your family, friends, community, your favorite causes. By being an inspiration, a beacon, through your business, you are exactly where you're meant to be, and there's no place where your light cannot shine.
Barb Conelli PhD, the founder of Feminine Money Power, is a women's heart-centered money coach & business mentor for the soul-filled entrepreneuress ready to put on her big girl pants and claim her greatness in order to create and KEEP amazing money. She encourages women to Be Boldly Brilliant: To break free of unconscious self-sabotaging money patterns, gain control of their relationship with money and build their dream business with passion, confidence and zest, using their unique, authentic feminine voice.Download your FREE Video Training & Workbook: 5 Boldly Brilliant Money Breakthroughs You Can Create TODAY To Make And Keep More Money With Feminine Grace, Ease And Authenticity.
Do you know that by the time you
reached school age, you had heard the word "no" approximately 40
thousand times, while the word "yes" only 6 thousand
Parents, although they usually mean well and only want to protect us, focus on what we cannot do, and do not reinforce enough what we can do. Achievements, little successes and accomplishments that should be celebrated are taken for granted, and the things they perceive as "failures" or "mistakes" are made a big deal of.
No wonder that as adult women in business, we often find it difficult to set proper boundaries and recognize what we want to say yes to, and what we need to say no to.
Today, make it your intention to say YES to bold opportunities, even if they scare you. To growth, even if you feel resistance. To reaching out, even if you feel insecure. To receiving money with joy.
To Being Boldly Brilliant in your business and in your life. And also make it your intention to say NO to energy-draining activities. To high-maintenance, demanding people. To overdelivering and undercharging. To disempowering situations.
To lack and negativity. To everything that makes you feel less than the Brilliant Goddess that you are!
I became fearless going on the “scary” rides in Coney Island, Brooklyn as a child even though I never would go on the parachute- there were known accidents on that one and I was very safety conscious- Mom was a worrier.
Going in the front car of the roller coaster, approaching the top (with friends of course ) and looking at the big drop ahead gave no time to do anything except scream & hold on tight! So it went through the fun summer months. Thinking back over the years, I did many courageous things and not much scared me. Here are a few that got me thinking back to the scary rides...:
Walking on hot coals while on a
mind body spirit retreat in Santa Fe ( first time away
from my young children too). We had lots of prep time and
when it was my turn I was ready. Awesome.
Skiing.This wasn’t worth it for me; injured and it could’ve been worse… Later on I took up cross country- fun!
Para sailing Puerto Vallarta: This was the ultimate overcome of fear of heights for me. I was sitting on the beach for several days meditating (and drinking pina coladas) and surprised myself with the conscious decision into action. Very challenging and I did look down a few times when I wasn’t looking at the mountain.
Riding a bicycle in Amsterdam last week. Steve and I were visiting our daughter who lives there with her Spanish boyfriend. The city is really set up for cycling but I convinced myself it would be tough, it's difficult enough being a pedestrian there- ‘cause of all the bicycles!
My daughter went off riding with my husband and after a while came back to get me- they knew I would love it and it was only a few blocks to Vondel Park. Steve and I visited that city 40 years ago and rode our bikes around that we bought in Italy.
Back on the trip forty years ago- we rode our bikes out of Florence (where we bought the racers- and mine was a boy’s with the bar- the only kind made at the time) and I scared myself with a coughing attack that precipitated me throwing the pack(s) of Marlboros out- which was scary ‘cause I couldn’t imagine not smoking “cold turkey” which I succeeded at. And it was difficult- maybe not scary- to totally change our travel plans so that we went back to the city and got the bikes on trains that rode out of the seven hills, through the Alps and landed us in Germany to enjoy the rolling hills (so we could use all the gears ) and along the Rhine onto Holland. Of course we stopped to eat and sleep in foreign lands- sometimes in hostels and sometimes in the forest, scary and amazing.
I’m happy to be telling you all now. When friends and strangers comment on (both) our daughters living in Europe – I smile and am happy we brought them up with roots and wings - and the ability to navigate the scary and unknown.
• The scariest thing of all for me was
9/11 and the period following that. Were we really
OK? Then it became more than me and being empty
nested- yes our daughters already just in Europe- and it
was much more than getting off the coach and
back onto the treadmill and back into the gym-
even that was scary after a dark
- Now getting through the airports is kinda scary. Getting off the Long Island RR into Penn station is fine if I look straight ahead and focus. That’s it, and what I recommend:
I'd love to hear your scary-resilience stories!
As a professional success coach and facilitator I help clients overcome fear and be resilient. Contact me for a complimentary strategy consult: 516 623 4353 www.balanceandpower.com
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I'm getting ready and being grateful.
- for The Jewish New Year Holidays
- for my vacation to Europe and visit with our daughters & family!
- to complete stuff or place in holding pattern before leaving
- ducks in a row for when I return
- then being in the Fall in NY, Halloween, Thanksgiving and December Holidays-
Soo... I am really grateful
- that I've been able to enjoy the sunshine walking at the Long Island shore viewing surfers riding post storm waves all week
- that my family and friends were not personally involved in 9/11 destruction of Twin Towers
- that I know how to pace myself (usually:))
- that I'm recovering from a car accident
- that Mom is 88! and she is grateful...
- that I understand and most often know how not to take bad stuff personally
BEEP, BEEP, BEEP….I am lying on the table when the nurse says, the patient is ready doctor. It is then that I finally realize that it is here, that I have come this far I can’t pull back now. You can do this Danny, you’ve wanted this for so long and now it’s here, “what is the saying on your arm!? “COURAGE, ABILITY, STRENGTH!” Why turn back now? YOU CAN AND WILL PULL THROUGH THIS! LIFE has thrown you curve balls before, what do you think this is, huh, and what do you plan to do with it when it come’s heading towards you? DUCK, and KEEP MOVING FORWARD!
Life’s curve balls are different for everybody but WE CAN’T LET THEM GET IN THE WAY of PURSUING OUR DREAMS and OUR GOALS. Now I want you all to stop and close your eyes for a second, think of something that you want to do or have been wanting to do and GO DO IT! In the words of Winston Churchill “If you are going through hell KEEP GOING.”
Keep on Keeping on
WHAT CURVE BALLS ARE YOU CURRENTLY FACING? If you are looking for more support Danny offers a 1 hour motivational breakthrough session! During this session we can look at what is holding you back from feeling more confident and develop a plan of action to guide you step by step to feeling your happier and healthier. Learn more about the breakthrough session here
Daniel Cohen is an Wellness Counselor, Motivational mindset coach and body image consultant working with disabled and able bodied men, women and children breakthrough their mental mindset that stops them from pushing ahead He does this by designing specialized wellness programs that help MOTIVATE, EDUCATE and REVAMP their health and well-being. For more information or if you have any questions please contact him at the e-mail address or website below
Have you ever pushed through all of your fears, walked right up to the edge, and leaped toward your dreams?
I bet you have. We all have.
How did you feel?
Excited? Elated? Proud? Light?
But what if while you were expecting to feel all of those emotions during the freefall between your old life and your dream life, you instead felt sick to your stomach and even more fearful than you already were?
What if during that freefall you started to question it all? What if you started to wonder why you had jumped in the first place? What if you worried that your dream wouldn’t be there to catch you?
What if that scared part of you began to ask yourself some tough questions: What were you thinking? Who were you to leap at all, anyway? Why couldn’t you just be happy and content with the way your life currently was? Why can’t you just enjoy this moment of pure faith – this moment of bravely leaping into the unknown?
What do you do if your freefall is filled with doubt and fear instead of joy and confidence?
You embrace it.
Seriously. While it may seem that this is the opposite of what you would want to do, it’s what you must do. If you resist it or judge it or run from it, it will only grow. When you embrace yourself for feeling this way and acknowledge the fearful feelings and the uncertainty, you allow yourself to move through it. And only when you move through it will it subside.
When you remind yourself that it’s perfectly normal and natural to feel this way, you give yourself permission to be in that space without judgment. When you remember how strong you were to leap in the first place – knowing that it took a special kind of bravery to be able to do that – you begin to turn these fearful feelings into empowered feelings. When you reconnect with that part of you who leaped because you couldn’t imagine doing anything else, you reconnect with your soul. When you pat yourself on the back for being strong enough to follow your heart, you begin to overpower any negative emotion. When you remind yourself how amazing you are for having the guts to do something like this, you allow the love to flow where before there was only fear.
And after all of this, you remember that the freefall is about surrender. The freefall is about faith. The freefall is about having complete trust that you are right where you are supposed to be.
When you land, you can reassess. When you land, you can make sure you’re really where you need to be. When you land, you can look around and see how this new world feels. When you land you can make sure it’s right. There is a time for all of this. But it’s not right now. Not during the freefall.
Embrace the freefall.
The freefall is evidence that you’re living fully. This is your moment to just sit back and relax. You did it. You leaped into pure faith – you believed that the universe and your dreams would support you and catch you. And they will.
Tell your mind that it’s all okay. Your heart knows this already. And your soul is leading the way.
There is no better feeling than landing right smack in the middle of a dream. And the only way to get there is to leap and freefall into it.
Embrace this moment.
This is your moment.
This is your freefall.
I am experiencing my own freefall right now as I’m getting ready to launch my first ecourse called Coming Back to Life (based on my upcoming book)!
I am excited and scared and joyful and worried and elated and uncertain all at the same time. But what I know in my heart is that I am so excited to offer this to you – so whatever fear is surrounding it needs to take a back seat so that I can bring it into the world.
I am so grateful that each of you are here to support me. I love that we are supporting each other. And that’s what this course is all about – coming back to life and reaching our dreams together. Let’s freefall together, too! (More details about the course soon – it starts on 9/17!)
Jodi Chapman is the author of the inspirational blog, Soul Speak; the upcoming book, Coming Back to Life: How an Unlikely Friend Helped Me Reclaim My True Spirit; and the bestselling Soulful Journals series, co-authored with her amazing husband, Dan Teck. She would love to connect on Facebook and Twitter. Click here to receive her free ebook: Journaling from the Soul – 100 Prompts for Self Exploration.
Is there something you’ve always wanted to do? Something
you dream or think about but just haven’t it done yet?
- Quit your job and start your own business?
- Go skydiving?
- Take a trip to fabulous location?
- Spend more time meditating, being with friends or family?
- Write a book?
Today is your day.
Today is your day
Today is your day!